Confidence is sexy. Jealousy is downright ugly and unappealing. When the green-eyed monster takes over, all hell breaks loose. And that ruins instead of builds relationships. Jealousy, when within the bounds of reason, can sometimes be healthy in a relationship. But when we (I say “we”, hoping that I’m not alone in this boat) make a huge deal out of it when our boyfriend or husband simply receives a harmless text message from one of his old female friends, then that becomes plain foolish. So, why should you not be jealous of our man’s female friends?
They’re just friends. That’s the fact of the matter. His friend, in this case, just happens to shave her legs, spends hours preening in front of the mirror, and gets her monthly period. We should understand that the men in our lives are entitled to make friends, regardless of sex. You do have male friends too, don’t you? So, you should understand what it’s like to have a friend of the opposite sex. There is no attraction, no romantic love whatsoever. If anything, the love that’s there is merely platonic. Take consolation in the fact that she doesn’t give him butterflies in his stomach.
He met her before he met you. If there was really any relationship to build on, that should’ve already happened a long time ago. The fact that they have been friends for this long means, that’s all there is to it. They value their friendship so much, that taking it to the next level is simply unthinkable. If anything, you should be more wary of the women he’ll meet henceforth. But then again, there is no hard and fast rule that says men who are in a relationship cannot make female friends.
He spends more time with you. Since you are his girlfriend or wife, presumably, he spends a lot more time hanging out with you than with his friends, male or female. That’s your edge over them.
He needs you to trust him. Men are big on trust, and jealousy for them, the unreasonable kind, is a red light that demonstrates a “trust-deficit”, so to speak. If your man has a clean track record, and he has earned your trust, give that to him.
Now, would it still be an issue if he had a gay friend? Hmm, that may be best saved for another blog post.