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Whoever said that “the only constant thing in life is change” sure wasn’t kidding! Sometimes, I wish he were. Change is always stressful, but as it turns out, it’s an inevitable part of our lives. Things never stay the way they are. It’s only a matter of time before they become different.
It’s hard enough for us adults to deal with change. What makes it even harder is when we have kids in tow. If you’re still dreading the concept of calling a moving company and finally moving to a new house with your kids, here are a few tips on what you can do to help ease the stress:
Sell the house to your kids. Weeks before the actual move, you can start taming your kid’s anxiety by telling him fun things about the new place. For instance, you can tell him that the new house is just a stone’s throw away from his favorite restaurant, or that there’s a really cool playground nearby. This will help get him excited.
Validate his fears. Don’t trivialize his anxiety. Acknowledge how he’s feeling and tell him that you feel nervous about the change too. You can tell him that you’ll be a team and stick together through it all. Tell him that it’s going to be an adventure to get to know new people and make new friends.
Make a memory scrapbook. You can go around your present neighborhood and take pictures of the things he’d like to keep in his scrapbook. That way, he’ll feel that he can keep memories of the things he’ll leave behind. He can keep looking at it as much as he wants.
You and the kids will understandably be under a lot of stress during the transition. Try not to lose it in front of them. Try as much as you can to be patient with them, and give them the attention they need. You will be his bastion of strength, so keep it cool.
Now, I wonder who said, “The more things change, the more they stay the same…”