Set Your Kids Up For Life Emotionally & Financially

There is not one parent out there, single or not, that doesn’t want to provide a successful and secure future for their children. No one goes into parenthood knowing exactly what to do for their child’s future, but as with anything, it’s a learning curve and these things come in time. As children grow up, the things that they need grow with them and so does the need to finance them. From the womb, children are not cheap, but you need to consider that you should be saving for them from the moment that they are born. College funds, investments, life insurances; you do all of these things so that your kids can have the best possible future. A secure future is the best possible gift that you could give your children, and while they would prefer monster trucks and unicorn glitter stickers, you should think about the financial gifts that you could give them, too.

 

Children from wealthy families are often the lucky ones, being born into advantage and privilege and they never have to worry about their future because it’s already in a trust fund for them. Unfortunately, not every family has this privilege and so it’s up to you as a parent to do everything that you can to make their future sound. You may not get the chance to raise your children in the most privileged neighbourhood; perhaps your home comes from a HDB resale. It’s not a bad thing; children need bills paid and a warm roof over their heads, and whether that’s from social housing or a mansion in the suburbs, as long as you have this bit sorted out, the rest will come. Building a stable future is the important thing to remember, and these are some of the ways you can help to do that:

 

 

 

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Cash Gifts. Cash gifts to older children when they are moving into their first property are always welcomed, and if you have saved up their whole lives, you could give them a gift to get them started on the property ladder. Even if it doesn’t cover the entire house deposit, it could go toward it or cover their stamp duty or fees. Either way, you’ve done something to lighten the load and add to their future. They may not want to use a cash gift on a house, but it doesn’t matter as long as you’re assisting them in their finances.

Savings. When your children are born, you set up their savings accounts. The best thing that you can do for them is to give family and friends details and have them add money to it over time. Child savings accounts work much like the regular high street bank accounts, and as they get older you can show them how they can add their cash to it. You can also set limits on it for withdrawal and once they’re older they can learn to use the account themselves. It’s a valuable way to teach them how to manage their money from a young age so that they don’t become impulsive with money when they get older.

Insurance. You may well have life insurance and house insurance, but did you know that you could give your child insurance, too? This can provide them with a lump sum of cash should something happen to you. These plans don’t insure the life of your child, but it does insure yours and ensure that the cash goes to them. You should also make sure that you have a will written and ready when you have your children, as anything could happen, and this is your insurance to know that your children are going to be cared for should something happen to you.

College Fund. Education may well be a right, but it’s a right of the privileged who can afford to get an education in the subject and institution that they want. These options can help you to save the money that you need to pay for their college tuition and living costs when they turn 18. You can set your child up for the rest of their life by having a college fund waiting for them to take advantage of. The ability to go to college and get an education is a valuable tool that can set up their entire life and you can have a big part of that.

Investments. Children won’t know much about investing money until they’re old enough to learn for themselves, but when you buy into property, precious metals and stocks, you are setting it up so that one day they will inherit the money that you’ve invested. Be smart when it comes to putting your money into investments; you want a good return so that you can provide a solid financial future for the children, but you also want to make sure you put in enough.

 

All of these ways can help you to set your children up financially, but what about emotionally? As a single parent, you could be working really hard to make sure that your kids have the most financially stable future, but if they’re not secure and happy emotionally, what’s it all for? There are some things that you should absolutely be doing for your children to make sure that you raise happy and secure adults, and here are seven of those things:

 

 

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Chores. Children, from a young age, should be doing chores in the home. It’s not just about making your life easy as a parent and person who looks after the house, but it’s about building the confidence of your kids so that when they leave home one day, they can take care of themselves and they can do it well. It helps to raise your child in a world where they can respect authority but not feel squashed by it. Chores help them to learn that they have to do work in their lives to be a part of a functional society.

Social Skills. As a parent, the lessons that you teach your children don’t just stop at walking and talking. For your kids to be successful, you need to teach them how to interact with others appropriately. Financial security is one thing, but if your kids are together socially, they are more likely to function well in a good job after college, and that can be everything that they need to set them up for success.

Education. We talked earlier about setting up a college fund so that your children have access to the best education that you afford. To be able to send your kids to college, you need to model high expectations for education yourself. Finish your own education at night school and let your kids know that they can have everything that they can achieve if they work hard. You can achieve for yourself and show your children that anything is possible.

Relationships. Whether you are a single parent or not, you should be modelling good relationships for your children. Co-parenting is a big deal and when you do it right, you can ensure that your children grow up with a mature, confident view of the relationships in their lives. Children that receive a lot of love and attention in the first few years during that crucial development phase and if they can see you having stable relationships with the people in your life, they will be able to emulate this behaviour, setting them up for a life of understanding what makes a healthy relationship work.

Excitement For Learning. Children need to learn to write, read and count, and concentrating on making math fun when they’re young means that they can enjoy it as they get older. Early math skills being learned can translate into achievement in math and finance in later life.

Failure. Children who learn when they’re young that it’s okay to fail are children that can cope when things go wrong the older that they get. You want to teach your kids to view failure as a way to grow and learn. Failure is not an ending and the more that you teach your children this, the more secure they will be as adults.

Work Ethic. You should be the example that you want your children to achieve. It’s always a good idea to model good behaviour and not bad behaviour, but children will still make mistakes. As long as you work hard to lay the groundwork of a strong work ethic, you’ll be setting your children up for life.

 

As a parent, there is only so much that you can do to show your children how they can grow into well-rounded, secure adults, but the harder you try, the better you will do as a successful parent with successful children. Being a support for your kids both financially and emotionally can help them to grow into people that you can be proud of. Take every opportunity that you can to make it happen for them and for you.

 

How To Help Your Child’s Anxiety Through Tryout Season

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When we think of anxiety, we often think about adults and stress. We may think about our child starting a new school, moving into middle school, or some bully on the bus picking on him.

 

However, we rarely think that their anxiety is coming from the softball team. He or she loves softball. They play all the time. They have friends that show up on sunny days with their bats, balls, and catchers mitt.

 

He has asked a dozen times when the softball jerseys will arrive. He lives for the game, so why would that make him anxious? You dismiss this as excitement. In the early days, they are two sides of the same coin.

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  • Know why you are punishing your child

It has been a really rough week and keeps getting worse. Suddenly Bobby doesn’t want to go to school. There’s not drop in the gades.

  • Is it the lunch period at school?

Are you not getting enough to eat? Would you rather carry your lunch for a while?

  • Is there something the other kids have, that you don’t?

Again you are told nothing is wrong, yet the child’s disposition is telling you a different story.

 

Many times parents run through every scenario they can think of and then decide the child is going through “growing pains” and determine that type of behavior is unacceptable. They may warn the child that there will be punished if their behavior continues.  Eventually, the parent will follow through with the punishment. But, the punishment will not correct the problem. The fact is, the child doesn’t know what is causing his anxiety. Since the child loves their sport, and since they have been excited about it for months, the idea that the child is feeling anxiety over the upcoming tryouts do not enter their minds.

Where do you start?

If you see a change in your child that is disturbing and not going away in a day or so, assume something is wrong, When you question him, you put the responsibility in his lap. He may not know why he is feeling the way he is feeling. As a parent, the first thing you should do is stop, watch, and listen.

 

If a child is having a problem on the school bus, you will see anxiety when the time comes for him to board the bus. You will see it and feel it. When he is with his friends, listen to what they talk about.

 

If your child freaks out (to an unusual degree) when he has an English test. Take a close look at his work. Not his report card, but his actual work. It may be that he has a B average, but it is a hard B. Look at the notes on his papers. Maybe he feels singled out by the teacher. Have conversations that will give him the opportunity to give you hints. Use your instincts and the process of elimination.

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When you have eliminated the normal issues, it is time to look to the less obscure.

What is different in your child’s world?  They live in the same house, go to the same school and, have the same friends. The kids are all excited about the softball tryouts. Who will make the team?  What position will they play? By quietly watching and listening, you spot it. It is not obvious to anyone else, but your instincts perk up as you realize your child is freaking out about the tryouts.

What can you do to help?

To a child, he is standing on the edge. One step to the left and his teammates are thrilled with him. His family is celebrating and everyone if going for pizza and talking about how great the kids do. But, if he steps to the right, he lets his friends down, disappoints his parents, and feels worthless. Here are some tips.

    • Refocus your excitement. Participate in the kids fun. Tell them how proud you are that they are trying out. Take them for ice cream because they had a great practice.
    • Make it a habit to focus on their action, not their score. Even if the catcher drops the ball and the other player scores, that was a great catch!

 

  • Don’t tell the kid, that you promise everything is going to be okay.

 

    • First, your child wants to believe you but his brain chemicals are in overdrive and they can’t hear you.
  • Go to plan B (and then make it plan A, next time)
    • Sit down with your kid and tell them you know they are stressed. Then show him what you do when you are stressed. Teach him to do some deep breathing exercises. But make it a game. Say “Breath in your nose and wiggle your toes.” Kick off your shoes and do the deep breathing. Soon the breathing will make them feel better and the toe wiggling will bring some laughs.
  • Get out the checkers, or Monopoly money and help them change their attitude. Identify what is scary in their situation, give them a red checker (or fake money). Then he has something good to say about the situation. You can help with him this.
      • Afraid he will get hit with the ball – 1 red checker
      • Will have gear on that will keep it from hurting – 1 black checker
      • Not real good t batting – 1 red checkered
      • Great at catching in the outfield – 1 black checker
      • Can run as fast as anyone out there – 1 black cecker
      • Not a great grand slam batter – 1 red
      • Great bunter – 1 black

 

The point here is to let your child bring out his own talents. That is how his confidence will grow.

 

Finally, at the end of the day, no matter what happens all of the good credit goes to the kids. Never say things like, “I told you!” or “We did it!”  This is his game, his challenge, and the part you paid in it is your job. But, just in case you need to hear it. “Good job at parenting! You rock!”

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Why Is It Important To Foster Your Child’s Connection With Nature?

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The benefits to humans of connecting with nature is a well-researched topic. However, in this modern day and age, it is becoming even more difficult to find opportunities to spend time outside. In bigger cities, we are constantly faced with car fumes, skyscrapers and unnatural surroundings that suffocate our ability to be at one with the natural world. If you are a parent, it is essential to focus on nurturing a connection with nature in your child. There are a whole range of benefits to doing this, which we will take a look at here.

Reduce Stress

Spending time in nature, away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life, inarguably helps to reduce stress. Not only does it offer the chance to breathe fresh air and clear a child’s mind, it will allow them to connect with an inner-feeling of peace that will be invaluable in helping them to focus.

Real World Science

The outdoor world is a natural science lab, where kids can learn about things like gravity and photosynthesis in a fun and interactive way. Being outside provides an excellent opportunity for you to foster a love of nature in your child and also to teach them about the importance of environmentalism and reducing climate change. If you lack the time to take your child on outdoor adventures, it may be a good idea to find a school that will focus on learning outside of the classroom. If your child is looking to study in international schools in Chiang Mai, this school presents an excellent option as a result of its holistic approach to learning and its green surroundings. With classes focusing on things such as environmental mindfulness and gardening, children can see how scientific principles are applied in the real world.

Problem Solving

The natural environment provides unparalleled opportunities for problem solving and team building. Climbing trees involves a huge amount of analysis and planning for a child, which can really help to stimulate their mind. Simple tasks such as crossing a stream or a bank of mud equally require mental capacity and forethought. Try setting up team activities such as raft building or sporting challenges to further enhance their social and leadership skills.

Stimulates Learning

Being outside has an unrivalled ability to stimulate learning. Children are encouraged to be curious and explore their surroundings, forcing them to reflect on their environment and respond to external stimuli. This is excellent for allowing children to focus on active learning and experiments have proven that time outside can increase a child’s attentiveness and reduce fatigue. It has even been suggested that simply walking in nature could improve your short-term memory.

Physical Health

Another important aspect of being outdoors is the health benefits that come with being active. With so many children constantly tied to their computer screens or smart phones, the great outdoors provides the perfect opportunity to tear them away.

With so many great effects of being outside, both you and your child are sure to benefit. So, ditch the sofa and get out there today!

Fun Activities That Parents Can Enjoy With Their Kids

 

When parents have a favorite fun activity with children, that activity becomes a source of great memories later in the future. However, these activities not only hold a nostalgic value. They are also very important to the proper upbringing of the child. Firstly, all children need some degree of physical activity outside of what he or she normally does. Taking part in fun games facilitates that. Secondly, taking part in activities helps a child to be brought up within a set of morals, codes and guidelines – all crucial for the child to hone a sportsman’s spirit and strength in character. Here are some simple yet fun activities that parents can enjoy with their kids.

Camping out

Camping out may be one of the most clichéd child-parent activity that there is, but not without good reason, as it is a lot of fun. Now there are two types of camping – one is actually going out in the wild and setting up tents. The second is the one set inside the house. Camping trips to the living room have the additional advantage of such luxuries like the carpeted floor and access to food supplies in the kitchen and private time in the bathroom.

How to set up an indoor camping trip –

  • Create a small tent or make one out of nothing by wrapping blankets over sensibly organized furniture.
  • Then take out the sleeping bags, cushions, and flashes to create the illusion of a real camping experience.
  • Make up a ghost story. Camping trips are known for the ghost stories. Make sure that the child is not too scared, though!
  • This tent can be made to stay for as long as the parents wish to. It is certainly handy for instant camping trips!

While this experience can be a lot of fun for children, for adults – they are brought back into their childhood memories. Everyone has memories associated with camping. This activity makes way for making newer ones!

Teaching art and craft

If parents want their children to be creatively expressive and hone their inner creativity, teaching them origami, with inspiration from websites like Origami Way, is the best method. Origami, along with other forms of art and craft are fun and advantageous because–

  • They help children recognize shapes.
  • When a child is given creative freedom of this sort, they can often end up surprising the parents.
  • Even the parents get to learn! As the parents spend time cutting papers up, they may too be exposed to some cool tricks of origami. Always nice to have one of these up your sleeves.  

Start having fun with a simple piece of paper and let the imagination of the child lead the parents.

Making bubbles

Create a homemade bubble solution by mixing-up dishwashing detergent, water and glycerin. Once it has been made, use an open-ended object to blow them and then – bubble war can start!

Parents will be amused to see the positive effect these activities have on both the child and their own lives. Such activities are also a wonderful way to bond with your kids.

Important Life Lessons A Puppy Can Teach Your Child

There’s one present that all children will love more than any other: a puppy. It’s the only gift that will love you right back, and whatever breed of dog you choose, it’s sure to liven up your house and bring moments of real happiness into your life and the lives of your children. Even more importantly, having a puppy and then a dog in their life can teach children three vital life lessons that will prove invaluable as they grow up.

The Importance Of Love And Companionship

Children love their parents and siblings, and although they can all have their ups and downs over the years, they’ll never fall out with the dog that was bought for them as a child. A well-raised dog is a faithful companion for life, and this can be especially useful if you have an only child or one who is usually quiet or reserved. You’ll often find children whispering in their dog’s ears, telling them the heartfelt secrets they wouldn’t reveal to anyone else, especially their parents. That’s nothing to worry about; your child is simply learning the importance of love and companionship, the two things that are surely the most essential ingredients of any happy life.

Learning Responsibility

When our children make a loving or thoughtful gesture it brings a smile to our face, but let’s face it they often have themselves as their number one priority. That’s completely natural and a normal stage of a person’s emotional growth, but a puppy can teach a child a whole new subject: responsibility. They’ll want to do all they can for their four-legged -best friend, and that includes feeding it, exercising it, buying it toys and presents, and taking concern in its health and happiness. In short, the skills they learn when looking after their pet dog are the same ones that in later life they’ll use to look after their own children.

Teaching Discipline To Puppy And Child

A puppy and a child are both adorable, but there’s another trait that can be equally applied to both: they can be naughty. A puppy needs to be shown what’s wrong and what’s right, so that it knows where to go to the toilet, doesn’t damage furniture and household items, and can be trusted near roads or when off the leash. The website Our Pet Spot has expert dog training advice, but the act of training a puppy can also help to improve your child’s discipline. They’ll see how important it is to be obedient, and how behaving well brings rewards. That’s just one reason why moms who buy their children a dog often see a significant improvement in their child’s behavior.

Having a pet dog teaches your child love for others, responsibility, and discipline, and what more important skills could there be as they move ever closer to adulthood? Always remember, however, to research thoroughly before bringing a new pet home. Allow it time to settle into its new environment, and ensure you have everything it will need ready for its arrival. In this way, you’ll be able to watch your puppy and child grow up happily alongside each other. It’s one present your child is sure to never forget.

What’s the Best Razor Type for a Teenage Boy

One of the decisions that you will have to make as your boy graduates to manhood is choosing the right razor for him. Shaving is important to teenagers and is a kind of a rite of passage to manhood for some. However, choosing the right razor for a beginner can be tricky. If you do not know how to choose a razor for a teenager, here are a few tips on how to find one and a few shaving tips for beginners as well.

Non-Electric or Disposable Razor

There are many brands of plastic disposable razors that you can choose from in the market. Non-electric razors are a great place to start for teenagers because they are easy to use. And you can dispose the razor after use or replace the used blade. When buying a disposable razor, it’s always better to buy one with at least two blades. A razor with multiple blades will make it easier to shave than a single blade. You should check the manoeuvrability of the head as well. A flexible head enables you to shave at different angles while following the direction of hair growth.

The downside is that non-electric razors tend to irritate the skin more than electric razors. A teenager suffering from acne may find a disposable razor particularly irritating. So, if your teenager has sensitive skin or skin conditions, it would be better to go for another option.

An Electric Razor

An alternative to disposable razors are electric razors, and they’re usually better for teenagers. Teenagers are all about speed, and shaving is no exception. An electric razor is also the safer option for someone who’s just starting and need a fast and clean shave.

And contrary to popular opinion, some electric razors can give just as close of a shave as a disposable razor. If you’re looking for good electric razors, you can check out reviews on a site like mybestshaver.com before you make your decision.

Shaving and Maintenance Tips

Knowing how to shave is just as important as picking a razor. One of the most important tips for proper shaving is to always shave in the direction of hair growth. Shaving against the grain irritates the skin and can lead to a post-shave rash and ingrown hairs, and ingrown hairs will eventually lead to razor bumps.

Also make sure that they shave with a clean and sharp blade at all times. Using the right shaving cream and aftershave is also essential to avoid irritated or dry skin after a shave. You can experiment with different brands but don’t substitute with soap since it doesn’t have the same hydrating effect.

In most cases, teenagers will prefer the convenience and speed an electric razor will offer. Whatever you do, before you pick a razor, consider your boy’s personality and preference first. Involve him in the decision to ensure that your choice of a razor suits him the best.

Making Education Fun

Learning is a big part of life. Whether you’re trying to get your kids to enjoy school more, or you’re thinking of taking up a new course to further your career, making education fun is essential. Here are some pointers that will help you to do just that:

 

Buy Fun Stationary

Fun stationary is a great motivator whether you’re trying to motivate your child to learn or yourself. Having different highlighters, colored pens, and a great notebook can make learning more engaging and note taking far superior to using a boring pencil and paper. It makes everything feel more engaging and organized.

 

Know About The Different Styles Of Learning

People learn in different ways. It’s important you become aware of the different learning styles so you can support yourself or your child in the way needed. Schools tend to teach kids the same way, and only some students benefit from this, as many of them take in information differently. When you assess your own style of learning, you can make sure you are properly taking information in, and the same goes for your kids. They are going to feel more confident and have a better time learning things if they are doing it in the way that suits them best, whether that’s by taking on practical tasks or watching demonstrations.

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Use Rewards

Using rewards is a great way to encourage learning – however, it’s important you don’t use them too often, or as a bribe. For example, you shouldn’t buy yourself something every single time you study. You’d probably run out of money. How about a reward when you successfully complete a module, essay, or test? Same goes for your kids. You can use stickers, and then when they have enough, you can treat them to something bigger, like a trip to the movies or a new toy.

 

Use Positive Language Surrounding Education

Using positive language surrounding education is a must. You need to speak to your kids about it in a way that excites them and makes them want to get up for school in the morning. Get excited about what they are going to learn with them. When talking about your own education, whether you’re discussing your future masters in engineering management or a test you have to take on Friday, make sure you avoid negative words and connotations. You can actually rewire your brain by doing this and associate learning with more positive things.

 

Create A Designated Area For Learning

Having a designated area for learning in your home is going to better support your kids when they have homework. It’s going to be much better for you too, if for whatever reason you have to work from home or do some work on a course you’re taking. The area should be quiet but motivational. You can include plants, pictures, and cool stuff so that it’s an area people enjoy visiting.

 

Making education fun is totally possible, even for those who have never been big on it. Have fun using these tips!

4 Ways to Snap Better Photos of Children for a Blog

Photographing children can be tricky even for experienced photographers. Not all children react the same way to having their photos taken, and some may shy away from the camera, others may try to grab it, and yet others may make funny faces at it.

If you want to start to snap better photos of children for your blog, there are a few things that you should try:

 

  • Get down to their eye level

Snapping photos of children from your eye level means that you’ll constantly be looking down on them, which is not the best perspective. Try to get down to the eye-level of the child that you’re photographing, or to that of the tallest child in the group.

  • Watch, wait, and snap candid shots

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The most compelling photos of children are almost always candid shots that are snapped when they are unaware of the camera and are distracted by something else or playing by themselves. To take these shots however you need to be prepared to watch and wait, getting them slowly used to the camera and playing with them until they do.

  • Don’t force them to smile

Many beginners try to coax children to smile before snapping photos, which often results in either an unnaturally forced smile or a funny face. Rather than trying to force children to smile by prompting them, you should snap photos of their natural expression – whatever it may be.

If you do want a photo of a child smiling, try to make it natural – by getting them to laugh by being funny, or by playing with them.

  • Keep it simple

As a rule you should try to keep the composition of your photos simple – to draw viewers directly to the child and make them the center of attention. In other words you should try to frame your shot so that it is as uncluttered as possible, and doesn’t distract viewers.

All these tips should help you to snap much better photos of children for your blog. However it does still help to be able to use post processing to edit and improve them after the fact.

In particular you may want to try applying artistic creative blur effects using Movavi Photo Focus. It is a specialized software that will let you learn how to blur a picture to draw focus to the child that you’re photographing.
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The effects of creative blur can be compelling, and Movavi Photo Focus will let you determine what elements to keep in focus and what to blur out. It is possible to also apply effects such as bokeh or tilt-shit, and you could even add dynamic motion blur to your shots.

Suffice to say Movavi Photo Focus will let you use blur to come up with unique and interesting photos of children. The best part is it is incredibly easy to use, and you don’t need to have any prior experience to apply its effects to any of your photos.

 

The Best Baby Wash, Brought To You by Cetaphil! #Takatack

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Any parent in his right mind naturally worries about what to wash their baby with.  We know all too well that  washing our babies with any regular soap could cause a skin rash, and other things that would make us go insane. That’s why grabbing the right product made me feel at ease.

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Takatack.com offered a must-have product for me and my baby- a wash that perfectly cares for your baby’s skin. That’s sure to make any parent worry-free! I bought it for Php849, which is a reasonable price. I didn’t think twice about buying it, because I never scrimp on my baby!  What’s more, it was delivered in just four days!  I did not expect to get it so quickly, because the last time I ordered something online, it came a week late. Keep up the service Takatack.com. Thumbs up!

Things to Consider When Planning a Birthday Party for Twins

Anyone who has twins knows that they can be absolutely adorable and a pleasure to have around, but you also know that certain occasions are a bit different, with birthdays being the most obvious challenges. Some twins love sharing their birthday with their sibling, while others will want their own separate party. Even if you have twins that are cool with sharing their party, that’s only a preliminary step as then you have to actually plan the event. With that said, here are a few things you might want to keep in mind in the process:

1. One Cake or Two?

Do your twins like to argue over things? Or, do they get along well when sharing? If sharing a cake is going to be a problem, or if your twins have not-so-identical taste preferences, then you might have no other choice but to purchase two medium cakes instead of one larger cake. It’s okay though, as the twins can still blow out their candles in unison. Of course, all cake prices vary, so it’s a good idea to compare prices when choosing between the single or separate cake approach.

2. Matching Outfits: Are They Really a Good Idea?

Every parent with twins owns at least a couple of cute matching outfits, and while you might be tempted to put them to use on the big day, it might not be a great idea if you have identical twins that are difficult to tell apart. After all, you don’t want guests confusing one twin for another. If you absolutely can’t resist dressing them up in the same clothes, then you might want to give each a name tag or unique hat/wristband to avoid mix-ups. Alternatively, you can design a themed costume party so that the twins will want to be different characters.

3. Present Opening: Taking Turns or Alternating?

Twins usually prefer to alternate opening gifts (e.g. – twin #1 opens a gift and then twin #2 opens a gift, and so on), but some parents prefer to give each twin their own gift opening session. Letting one twin open all their presents first can upset the other temporarily, but on the other hand, it gives both kids a chance to truly enjoy the unwrapping of all their gifts consecutively. Plus, enforcing this rule can be a good way to teach twins discipline and family rank.

Staying Within an Allocated Budget

Twins aren’t only “double the trouble” they’re also twice as expensive on birthdays. Setting an equal but definitive budget for each twin will help you avoid the “hey, that’s not fair” arguments that may result from getting one twin more or “better” gifts than the other. However, giving them both the exact same gifts isn’t quite ideal either, so just try to get two of each gift that you think they’re most likely to fight over. Likewise, designating more expensive gifts to both of the twins also helps (i.e. -writing “For [Twin 1’s name] and [Twin 2’s name]” on a present that contains a game console or basketball goal).