5 Steps To Learning To Love Your Mom Bod

Being pregnant and giving birth changes your body in ways that you most probably can’t imagine. Being pregnant isn’t just like gaining weight, postpartum losing weight is different to losing weight after a normal weight gain because your size and shape has been altered by being pregnant and giving birth. That’s not to say that you can’t look and feel amazing again because you can do, it’s just that it will take time. A lot of new mamas dislike their post-pregnancy bodies and lose confidence because of it, but that shouldn’t be the case.

 

Your body is amazing, it has done an amazing thing, and you should love it for that. To help you learn to love your new mom bod, below are five steps to try, that should help to give your confidence a boost.
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Step 1: Ignore social media

 

Whatever you do, don’t search ‘#mombod’ on social media because it will leave you scarred for life. Instagram is packed full of pictures of perfect looking women who have apparently given birth recently. It’s these kinds of images that make new moms feel inadequate in terms of their appearance. The fact is that when it comes to the changes that occur during pregnancy, everyone is different, and because of this, we all recover at different rates. Just because your best friend was back in her pre-pregnancy jeans two weeks after giving birth, that doesn’t mean that you should be.

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Step 2: Realize how insane your body is

 

Instead of focusing on the fact that your body is no longer ‘perfect,’ focus on the fact that your body is amazing – you grew a human, what’s more incredible than that? Sure, your body may not look like it used to, but you grew a human inside of you. Just because your body isn’t as ‘perfect’ as it used to be, don’t let that get you down. Instead, focus on how strong your body is and how resilient.

 

Step 3: Focus on the parts you love

 

Don’t focus on the parts of your body that you dislike, instead focus on the parts that you love. Whether that’s your cheekbones, your slim wrists, or your long legs, find a part of your body that you love and focus on that. Remember, every woman has things about herself that she doesn’t like, but the key to feeling good about yourself is not focusing on them and instead focusing on the areas that you love.

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Step 4: Fix the parts you hate

 

If there are parts of your new mom bod that try as you might you just can’t get passed, what you need to do is to find ways to fix the problem areas. Let’s say that you’re not keen on your new tiger stripes – a cute new name for stretch marks that a lot of moms are using – then perhaps it could be worth trying to get rid of them. Before using over-the-counter treatments, try natural ones – do this first and if you don’t see the results you want then try other treatment options. For a lot of new moms there most hated feature is their mom tummy as it is less flat and toned than before. The key to getting your tummy back to looking like it did pre-baby is toning, and the best way to do this is by practicing Pilates – after just a month of Pilates, you should see a major difference.

 

Step 5: Update your wardrobe with clothes that fit

 

Last but not least, if you want to love your new mom bod you need to update your wardrobe with clothes that fit. The chances are that you don’t yet fit into your pre-pregnancy wardrobe but your maternity clothes are too loose now that the bump is gone, so you need some new clothes. You may not be able to buy ‘normal’ clothes yet but what you can do is buy smaller-sized maternity clothes instead. By updating your wardrobe with a selection of clothing that fits you properly, you will make yourself feel happier about how you look and will give your self-esteem a boost.

 

The fact is that it will take time to learn to love your new mom bod, but you will learn to be proud of the changes to your body. You might miss your pre-baby size and shape, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t learn to love your new figure. It’s also important to realize that in time, with hard work and motivation it is possible to get back down to your pre-pregnancy weight and shape.

 

 

 

Give Your Life New Energy… Literally

The life of a modern parent can be tiring. In addition to keeping your kids entertained, you need to work, complete the household chores, and find time for shopping. Quite frankly, if you haven’t got high energy levels, it can feel more than a little overwhelming.

While natural energy levels can vary from person to person, there are a number of things you can do to inject greater amounts into your daily life. Not only will you feel better prepared for life’s challenges, but you’ll also gain a plethora of other health benefits.

Follow these four simple tricks, and you’ll be amazed at how quickly those results show.

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Eat Right

 

Your body is the most complex machine on earth. If you aren’t fuelling it with the right stuff, you’re doing yourself a major disservice. Even if you only make one change to your lifestyle, improving your diet should be top of the agenda.

It’s still possible to improve energy levels while losing weight and gaining a better body shape. The key is to choose a suitable nutrition plan rather than starve yourself. A keto diet can be the perfect way to achieve the best of both worlds. Ultimately, the key is to find balance.

Above all else, you must remember to drink well. Dehydration will leave you bereft of energy regardless of what you eat.

 

Exercise

 

It’s a strange thing, but spending energy is one of the best ways to generate more. Regular exercise gets your body used to needing to use energy in a productive manner, and it will leave you feeling far more alert.

Again, the other health benefits of following the right plan are plentiful. Even if you don’t like the gym, you can always use group classes and dance lessons to regain a sense of activity in life. Keep it fun, and you’ll never want to stop.

 

Respect Your Body

 

Good diet and exercise will always have a positive impact on your body. However, life isn’t always black and white, and those elements are just a small part of the challenge. No two people are unique, and your faults may be causing you to become tired. Understanding and respecting those limits is key.

Sufferers of chronic fatigue, ME, and other problems need to find the right diagnosis and right treatment. However, those direct issues aren’t the only contributing factors. Something as simple as not wearing glasses when you need them will put strain on your eyes, and that will result in tiredness. The body is an amazing thing, and it will let you know if there’s a problem. Do not ignore it.

 

Get Your 40 Winks

 

Making positive adjustments in your daily life is crucial to regaining your energy. However, it’s equally vital that you recognize the importance of rest and recuperation. Disrupted sleep will inevitably lead to a lack of energy.

There are many reasons why you might not be sleeping, from financial fears to keeping your mind too active before bed. Either way, choosing the best mattress and suitable bedroom décor will go a long way to helping. Meanwhile, many poor sleepers find that modern tech and soothing music can have a positive impact too.

Getting a good night’s sleep will leave you waking up full of beans. As long as you follow the other steps outline above, there’s no reason that hey should change throughout the day.

 

Single Mom Vacation Stress, And How To Reduce It

So, everybody knows that while vacations can be wonderful family time, they can be a big bag of stress as well. There is all the washing and ironing you have to do before you go. Then there’s the packing, as well as booking and paying for things.  All of these issues can be magnified when you are the only adult that is going, as you don’t get to split the responsibilities or the stress. But there are some ways you can seriously reduce your vacation stress, and have an enjoyable time. Just read on to find out what they are.

Pay In Increments

So one of the biggest stresses about vacations is that they can cost so much money! It can be pretty tough to make ends meet when there is only one parent in the household. So finding the money to go on vacation is often a rare and exciting treat.

One way you can make this a little easier on yourself is to find a voucher to help you reduce the cost of your holiday. Or you can look for a provider that allows you to pay in increments.

Some vacation providers allow you to book your place, and dates, with a small deposit and then pay off the remaining fees over a year or so. It’s a lot easier to pay a little each week or month. Plus, by booking it this early, you have something to look forward to on the days that are a bit stressful. You know the ones I mean!

 

Pack In Advance

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Another major stress of vacationing is getting everything ready to go. This is primarily made up of washing, ironing, and packing all of the clothes that you will want to take with you for both you and your kids.

The best thing that you can do to reduce stress here is to get packing in advance. What you need to do is sort out which clothes you will need for your trip, and keep them separate from anything else. Then wash and iron these, and roll them up once they are dry as this will help to stop them from creasing.

Be clear with the kids on what they can and can’t wear for the week before the holiday, though, as they might take something from the wrong pile. You can even put it in their suitcases, so they know not to touch it.

Also, it’s often a good idea to dress in something comfortable, but nice when you get to the airport as this helps you to get in a festive holiday mood.

 

What About You

Something else that you can do to reduce the stress of your vacation is to make you’re you provide for yourself as well as the kids. It’s your vacation too!

For example, it is your time of the month while you are away, you may want to get tablets to delay your period, so you don’t have to worry about that on top of everything else!

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You may even choose to pay for some childcare on one of the days. Then you can get some time to relax by the pool, instead of always making sandcastles and running after the little one when visiting theme parks!

 

 

 

 

 

From Blip to Baby: How I Came to Terms With My Unplanned Pregnancy

Is it just me, or is everything simply whizzing past in a dizzying blur? Things are happening at lightning speeds, that it’s becoming increasingly stressful to keep up with the pace.  In the midst of all this daily frenzy at home and at work, it’s always refreshing to hear good news (not gossip!).

I just got word from an old friend who now lives in Australia, that she had an ultrasound in Adelaide which confirmed that she’s 8 weeks pregnant. How exciting is that!

This brings me back to nearly two years ago, when I found out I was pregnant. When I saw that tiny blip on the ultrasound machine, I couldn’t believe my eyes. I was shell-shocked, to say the least, as it was an unplanned pregnancy. The last thing I wanted was a baby with a man I had just broken up with. A tsunami of thoughts and emotions wiped me out: How was I going to raise this kid alone?  Will I have enough money to make it through this? How is this going to affect my older daughter?

After turning to friends and family for emotional support, sanity then took over. The torrential rains inside my head started to die down, as I embraced the fact that I was going to have a baby.

Even as my little one was still inside my womb, I showered him with all the love I could possibly give. I watched what I ate, and tried my darndest to always think happy thoughts. I regularly tracked his development as he grew inside my 40-year old uterus. When he was finally born, i had a newfound sense of what true happiness meant.

Sometimes, life plays funny tricks on us and jolts us out of our mundane existence. It’s not the end of the world when things don’t go as planned. As long as we believe that we have what it takes to pull ourselves through any situation, we will come out whole again- sometimes, as better versions of ourselves.

And then when it hits you that the seemingly impossible CAN be possible, you get a renewed faith in the cliche that there is a reason for everything.

On the Breakdown of the Family: What Does This Portend?

There has been much literature published on the breakdown of the family unit but in recent years a renewed interest in the subject has been stirred by the controversial nature of same-sex marriages and all the press they have gotten. This has reopened the debate on whether or not the breakdown of the family unit is responsible for crime and poverty and as time goes on, it appears as though it does.

However, validation comes not from a religious perspective as many would like to claim when denying the possibility that a two parent household is important in the development of children, but from a purely socioeconomic perspective. As time goes on, it does appear that the breakdown of the family unit is largely, or at least in part, responsible for a rising crime rate and a life of poverty.

How Same Sex Marriages Can Mirror Traditional Benefits for Children

In a recent study undertaken by the combined efforts of two professors from Harvard University, it was their findings that children from two parent households fared better in the long run than those coming from single parent families. Their findings were not biased by overtones of religion but rather stemming from purely socioeconomic factors.

It is extremely difficult to be a single mother/father and raise a family while giving adequate attention to both children and jobs. Whether it is a same-sex marriage or a traditional marriage, having two parents in the household offered better hope for the future. Children from two parent households went, for the most part, optimistically forward into adulthood getting both a degree and a living wage.

Two Parent Households Provide Better Focus on the Kids

There are few, if any, studies that indicate that it is as easy to give your children the attention they need in a single parent household as would be possible in a two-parent household. By the time you have worked enough hours to pay the bills and have done all the household chores, there is little time or energy left to devote to the children.

Again, the thesis that two parent families offer hope to our youth isn’t based on Judeo-Christian precepts. Yes, you can explore sites like OnFaith, a site for all religions to find that all religions commend family life for offering the greatest opportunities for children but you can also see the implicit understanding that economics has a great deal to do with that hope as well.

General Conclusions:

Rather than blame one group or another for this breakdown of the family unit, maybe a good place to start would be to look at some of the facts and figures that have become available due to these recent studies. Across the board in almost every community studies of all racial and cultural demographics, children from two parent homes fared better in adulthood than those of single parent homes.

This is not to say there won’t be exceptions to the rule, it is just to indicate that as the family unit continues to erode, the prospects for the future of society look grim unless another paradigm is found and developed – that of the extended family in the community at large representing multiple father or mother images to take the place of the missing parent. It’s a thought provoking concept that should be explored.

It’s Not The End Of The World: Top Advice Moms Need To Get From A To B Without A Car!

Whether your car is off the road, or you just can’t afford to run one, it can feel like a stressful time for a mom without a vehicle. After all, you need to get the kids from A to B. However, it doesn’t have to be the end of the world. For one thing, you are bound to save money without a car. The fuel prices, insurance, and tax can end up costing families a fortune. In fact, http://www.cheatsheet.com/ says the average car owner spends $9000 a year on their vehicle. It is a lot of money for a family to payout every year. And it’s also better for the environment and your health if you don’t have a car! Therefore, here is some top advice moms need to get from A to B without a car!

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Look into bus passes

 

A lot of people rely on public transport to get them from A to B. After all, it’s a useful way to safely transport your kids. However, you need to research online so that you can plan the bus route. That way, you know which bus to catch to get to your child’s school and to the local shops. Also, you need to look at bus passes for your family. For a lot of companies, you just pay one price and then you can use it as much as necessary during the week. Remember if you are going to use the bus, you need to ensure you pack light. As it says on http://lifehacker.com, it might be busy, so there won’t be much room for storage!

 

Find a decent taxi firm

 

Although taxis can be expensive, there are some ways to reduce the cost in the modern world. For example, you can download apps such as Uber or Lyft which can both be used to get your family around safely. You can pay the cost before you travel so that you know you won’t be ripped off at the end of the journey. And it tends to be a lot cheaper than using a

traditional taxi rank! You can find out more about how these work on sites such as CruzApp.com.

Get your family some excellent bikes

Another way to get around without a car is to get hold of some bikes. It’s a great way to travel short distances while getting fit at the same time! There are lots of different bikes, so make sure you do your research. As discussed on this site, it’s important to think about the distance and the terrain you will be riding on when choosing a bike. And you can get some excellent bikes for your kids as well. Or if they don’t want to ride them, you could get a child bike trailer which attaches to the rear of your bike. That way, you can ensure you get from A to B without too much trouble!

And remember to ask if any other moms drive past your area on the way to school. You could set up some form of carpooling. That way, you give the mom half the petrol if they transport your family. It will help them save some money on fuel while getting you from A to B at the same time!

Pampering Myself & Saving Money With Groupon Coupons

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Just like that, it’s already November. Time doesn’t just fly- it zooms past us like a philanderer breaking a woman’s heart. If you so much as blink an eye, you’re going to miss important events in your life. And with so much going on in mine, I know that I should do something to let loose and relax. What better way to carve out some “me” time than to pamper myself?

When it comes to self-indulgence though, I still opt for a good bargain whenever I can.  So I looked no further than Groupon Coupons for good deals on nearly everything.

My idea of relaxation is packing my bags and going on a trip, so I hurriedly looked up travel deals HERE, and was not disappointed.  They have deals that let you book your flight and hotel at the same time, so you save money. I can then have that vacation I’ve always wanted without burning a hole in my wallet.

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Since the bedroom has always been my go-to place for relaxation at home, pampering myself also means getting new bedsheets and linen.  So when I found great deals on beddings, I was naturally ecstatic.

I also found lots of good deals on Care.com

Time may pass by in the blink of an eye, but it can never steal my delight in things like Groupon coupons.

 

Unbreakable Bond: Moms, This is How You Bond With the Kids

The bond between a mother and her children is one that can’t be broken. And, forging this unbreakable bond is something that happens at an early age. So, you need to come up with the best ways of bonding with the children and making a positive impact on their lives.

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Read to Them

You know one of the dying arts these days? Parents reading to their children. Most parents these days are too content to let their kids sit in front of a screen. As such, many children nowadays aren’t able to read very well. Educating your child to read and reading to them yourself are really important. This can increase a child’s vocabulary, excite their imaginations, and make them more creative.

Discipline is Important

Discipline plays a big role in your life as a parent. You have to be sure your children are well disciplined and that they know the rules. Kids who lack discipline at a young age will wind up being entitled and spoilt as they get older. That’s why you have to address this behavior when they are very young and make sure you nip it in the bud. Discipline teaches kids about respect and understanding and will bring them closer to you in the long run.

Spend Time Together

Spending time with your children is one of the most important things you’ll have to do as a parent. Kids need love and attention at a young age because it’s crucial for their growth and development. Children look to you as their role models and their link to the world. The more time you spend together, the more your children will learn, and the more well-rounded they will become. If you neglect your kids and don’t make time for them this will have repercussions on them as adults. Too many parents these days don’t make the time for their kids, and you’ve got to make sure you don’t make this mistake.

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Play With Them

You have to put in the time to play with your kids. Spending time together is important as well. But you need to share in the act of playing together. This means you join in with their games and embrace the way they want to have fun. It’s really important for kids to be able to play with their parents. And not enough moms and dads these days take the time to do that. Kids need stimulation and interaction when they play. And they have to be taught about socializing while they play because this will come in very important later in their lives. Also, playing with them allows them to spend time with you in an entertaining environment and ensures that you develop strong bonds.

Know When to Reward Them

You have got to know when to reward your children for their behavior and accomplishments. Now, this is a bit of an art form because you have to get it right. It’s important to recognize their good behavior and success, but you can’t always reward them. You shouldn’t get into the habit of rewarding the kids constantly for things they should be doing anyway. This will make them grow up thinking that’s always going to happen. But it is important to show recognition on occasion. You also have to choose rewards carefully. You could buy them treats, gifts of unique craftsmanship, or follow through on promises. Make a decision about what you feel the best reward will be for your children.

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Be Consistent

One of the big mistakes that parents often make is to be inconsistent in their approach to parenting. This is a mistake because it gets confusing for their children. They need consistency to familiarize themselves with the way you parent. This means you need to follow through on threats you make, as well setting boundaries. Find a style of parenting that works for you, and stick to it. The worst thing you can do is chop and change the way you are with the kids. This is okay occasionally, and when they are younger. But, if you do it too much then you’re going to find that the children disengage, and they won’t take things you say seriously. Consistency is the key to success in anything, and parenting is no different.

Prepare for Tantrums

As your children get older, the number of tantrums they have is going to increase. As they get more and more hormonal, they will start to treat everything like it’s the biggest deal in the world. Now there are many ways you can tame your children’s temper tantrums. But this will become increasingly more complex as they get older. And you need to be aware of the fact that these tantrums are going to occur. The best way of bonding well with your kids is to make sure you understand their tantrums and try to understand their emotions. If you can deal with these things well, then you’ll get on better and develop a better relationship with the children.

Find Out What Works for You

There’s no formula for how to be a good parent, though people may tell you otherwise. It’s about being there for your kids and treating them well. But, it’s also about making sure you find what works for you as a parent. Something that is effective for other people and their kids may not work on your kids. The best way to bond effectively and be a good mother is to determine what works with your children and then use the techniques you need. This helps you I understand your kids on a deeper level and allows you to bond with them better.

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Parenting is one of the hardest things in the world, but it’s also one of the most rewarding. And you need to make sure you give yourself the best possible chance of being a good mom. The thing is, there is no guidebook to raising children. Sure, there are plenty of parenting books that give you the basics. But no one knows your kids the way you do. And you can use this knowledge of them to ensure you bond with the kids as much as possible.

3 DIY Projects Moms Will Love

On Mother’s Day, how can you honor your mother for the work she does for your family? Perhaps the most popular way of showing Mom how grateful you are for her is through DIY projects. Whether it’s decorating a mailbox for the spring or helping her fix up a space in the house just the way she wants it, young children can get in on the action by making decorative items with Dad using age-appropriate materials.

You might even take it a step farther and get Mom a DIY craft kit or a gift card to her favorite store. The following three DIY project ideas can help you give Mom a nice surprise on Mother’s Day.

DIY Crafts for the Whole Family

 

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Crafting is a relaxing hobby, and it’s one that the whole family can share with Mom. While it’s traditional to give Mom something on Mother’s Day, consider giving her a DIY craft in which everyone can participate. Crafting moms get the pleasure of making something with their families, and everyone else will get to enjoy learning more about Mom and her favorite crafts. Going this route might slightly change up the tradition of giving Mom a gift outright, but it brings the family together and makes the day a particularly special one.

Decorating the Mailbox for the Season

Mother’s Day is something of a season opener for planting annuals or perennials, making it the perfect time to create a beautiful setting for your mailbox. Take Mom on a trip to the nursery and have her pick out what she’d like to see in her front yard, but don’t stop there: Go one step farther and prepare the spot for planting, then let her design the layout. Don’t let her do the work, though; this is her day to relax while she enjoys what her family wants to do for her.

You can also find weatherproof decorations to put on the mailbox. Pick out Mom’s favorite flowers or find items that represent her hobby, and then place them around the mailbox. Be sure, though, to keep them out of the way of the postal worker who delivers your mail.

Check an Item Off the Honey-Do List

There’s always something around the house that Mom has been wanting to do for ages but that never seems to get done. Use Mother’s Day as an opportunity to get that project done. When you tackle the jobs that are the most important to her, you can get the whole family involved, assigning age-appropriate tasks so that no one will feel left out.

Whether it’s hanging a mirror and putting up a shelf or two — or even something a little more involved that doesn’t need a contractor — your gift will be something that Mom will appreciate for years to come.

Mother’s Day is just one day in the year, but a mother’s work is never done. Make this day special by giving her a gift she’ll remember for life. Think outside the box and get the entire family involved, combining everyone’s best effort into an unforgettable project.

Students of Strength – A Tutor in your Pocket

Asking for help is something that I as a single mom should practise more often. After all, it does take a village to raise a child.

In the case of tutoring my middle schooler, I have always done that on my own. Whenever exam days loom over the horizon, I hit the books with my daughter. Unfortunately though, our study sessions almost always end up in hair-pulling episodes (my own, of course) and pencil-breaking meltdowns. In short, I get impatient when tutoring her. That goes to show how effective a teacher I am!

So I was only too ecstatic to discover a gem on the internet. It’s called Students of Strength. It’s an app-based tutoring service where tutors are available 24/7. They work with Tutors from top Ivy-League schools (Harvard, Notre Dame, Brown etc…).

With the convenience of an app you can forget about the hassle of driving your child to a tutoring center, back and forth. All you need is your laptop or phone. What’s nice about their software is it’s user-friendly, fun to use.

SOS offers affordable subscription plans, and proceeds from each subscription purchase go directly towards helping them tutor kids from less fortunate families. That definitely makes the grade, I must say.

In this day and age when you can virtually have access to anything, Students of Strength comes in real handy. For us who are in dire need of quality tutors for our kids, help is just a mouse-click or a finger-tap away.