144 (and more) Reasons to be Happy

There are four days left until the voting for Circle of Moms’ Top 25 Blogs on Single Parenting ends, and I am still reveling in the euphoria it has thus far brought me.

It all began when I got an email from Circle of Moms, saying that my blog has been nominated. I immediately set about the task of asking (short of begging) everyone I knew, from the present and the past, to please vote for me.

I am fortunate enough to have been blessed to be a part of this group of Filipino mommy bloggers from all over the world . We are called PMC (Pinay Mommies Community). They have been consistent in showing their undying support by religiously voting for me each and every single day. I don’t know how I can thank them enough :). I am getting teary-eyed as I write this, seriously! Because of their votes, I am currently on top. I am nothing short of amazed at the miracle of friendship and love, and the power it brings.

I am grateful to all 144 members of PMC. They are reason for this smile plastered on my face. We are one in this. My victory is theirs. Win or lose, we have each other.

5 Signs He Is Into You

Men are as undecipherable as the hieroglyphics of ancient Egypt. Their minds are a tough nut to crack, as they often find it difficult to express how they feel. Having said that, we women still fall head over high heels for them. Under the steady gaze of our man, our knees couldn’t help but melt like polar ice caps under a slightly ozone-depleted atmosphere.

Since men are beings of the un-vocal kind, how do we know exactly how they feel when we’re with them (or without them?)? Here are some signs that your man is really into you:

1. Even if his morning is ruined when he runs a flat tire, he still finds a way to see you, sweaty armpits and all!
2. Twenty minutes after dropping you off from your quick morning date together, he calls to say sorry for forgetting to buy you ice cream.
3. He patiently pushes the grocery cart behind you as you take time scouring the supermarket aisles for that fairly cheap bag of chips.
4. Even if your body pales in comparison to Kim Kardashian’s, he still texts you first thing in the morning to say you are drop-dead gorgeous.
5. Seconds after you get a missed call from him, he puts Stevie Wonder to shame by texting that he just called to say “I love you”.

Men have their ways of showing us that they love us. Ultimately, it will be up to us, the recipient, to decipher if they are sincere in their affections and gestures towards us. If you feel that your man really is into you, then return the favor and make him feel appreciated for his efforts. That boosts their ego, and makes them feel like a million bucks!

Top 3 Ways to Find Love

I still haven’t found what I’m looking for. Yes, I’m singing to an old U2 tune. I couldn’t help but have that song play over and over in my head as my daughter and I were fervently looking for Easter eggs at an Easter egg hunt we went to yesterday. This reminds me of another thing which men and women alike keep looking for (aside from money)…LOVE!
We search high and low, near or far, but oftentimes, our efforts turn out to be another exercise in futility. The last thing on our minds is to end up growing old alone. What use is a talent in playing the guitar if you have nobody to play for, right? Exactly what must we do to find love?
• Ask to be introduced. This is where your network of friends comes in handy. Sure, Facebook is convenient, but it’s more important to get out there for some face-to-face human contact. Sometimes, if you don’t take some action, it just will never happen. Your friends know you well enough to find you a suitable match, but don’t take it out on them if things don’t work out.
• Steer clear of friends who might bring you down. We attract from the universe what we put into it, so if we go out there with a negative attitude about finding love, we just might succeed at never finding it. If you keep spending your weekends with your group of single, man-hater girlfriends, chances are, you’ll end up like them.
• Stop looking. Hasn’t it happened many times, that you’ve been looking all over for your glasses, only to find it hanging around your neck? Sometimes, the one thing we keep searching long and hard for has just been sitting right under our nose the whole time.
Finding love…well, at least real and lasting type, is never easy. There will be hits and misses along the way, but that’s all part of the ride. We fall, we get bruised, we get back up. Just as it says in the famous poem Desiderata: “whether or not it is clear to us, the universe is unfolding as it should”…


How to get your man to listen

The most common root of all arguments between a man and a woman is when the woman feels neglected when she feels her man isn’t listening to what she has to say. When the man starts zoning out as she’s talking, molehills turn into mountains, as little disagreements helplessly get blown out of proportion. This is yet another one of those “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” issues. So, what are the effective ways to get your man to listen? For the love of bullets, here’s a brief list:

  • First of all, decide if the topic you want to bring up is of interest to him. If you want to merely rant about that hairdresser who picked the wrong hair color for you, then it’s best to save that for your next night out with the girls.
  • Guys just hate it when you beat around the bush. We are well aware that they have short attention spans.
  • Get to the point. Sure, you want to vent, but you must keep in mind that guys are natural problem-solvers. They’d rather you told them upfront what it was they can do to help you feel better. It’s best to come to them with a line like, “Baby, I need you to help me with this…” This makes them feel that you have faith in their capacity to solve your problem.
  • Men are visual beings (as if you didn’t already know!). It wouldn’t hurt if you approached him with your problem while you’re in your sexy tank top. That, coupled with a come-hither look will surely keep his attention for a reasonable amount of time.
  • Timing is everything. Be careful not to initiate talking to him while he’s at work, or on his way to work, or when he just got home from work. And the most sacred of all rules, is never to interrupt while he’s watching his favorite game on TV. It’s best to wait when he’s in a better mood, like in the car, while he’s driving.

It doesn’t take an Einstein to know that men are easily distracted. In order to get him to listen, no, it’s not high time to get out the ball and chain. The key is to keep his interest in what you have to say…and of course, in how you look.

How to make your love last

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