Coping With Emotional Pain


Yesterday I was one huge emotional mess.  I will spare you the gory details, but suffice it to say, I was so depressed and confused that I felt the earth would swallow me whole.  The emotional pain turned physical as I felt an indescribable heaviness on my chest, as if there was a small nitrogen cylinder in my heart, almost about to explode from the extremely high nitrogen cylinder pressure pushing down on it.

All that pain made me pause to think about how technology has no way to ease one’s emotional pain.  With all the advancements man has made in science, why hasn’t anybody come up with a device or gadget which effectively and magically wipes away memories?  I wish it were possible to wipe away all things we wish to forget… those life events which cause us so much pain and trauma.

In lieu of this dream gadget, we are left to cope with life’s occasional harshness the long and hard way.  When trying to get over a breakup, for instance, you have to go through stages of pain before you finally emerge healed.  Sometimes, you inevitably go back and forth through the process, making it twice as hard.

Personally, I have no game plan when it comes to dealing with the cannonballs life hurls at me.  When something tragic happens, initially I’m stunned and left immobile.  And then, I turn to God.  I literally look to the sky and talk to God.  I lift up my arms in a virtual hug.  Somehow, that comforts me and gives me the strength to survive another day.

About Pepper

I am a single working mom, trying to raise my kid the best way I know how. Join me as I navigate my way through the jungle that is Single Mom-hood, armed with rose-colored glasses and strength of spirit. As pepper adds spice to food, so does my daughter add spice to my life. She makes life no less than…PEPPERRIFIC!

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  1. Hope you’re feeling better now, Pepper!
    Stay happy! :)

  2. I’m really sorry to hear that you had such an awful day and I hope the coming days will pass easier for you. Life does indeed throw a lot of unwanted trials at us, I am facing a few harsh ones myself right now, but somehow we manage to keep going. Sending you a big virtual hug, not as good as the real thing perhaps but the intention is there x

  3. Hugs, Pepper! When nothing seems to work, God is always there!

  4. Pepper, visiting after a long time and so sorry that you were going through this. Hope you are much, much better now. Take care!!

  5. I think the tough stuff makes us stronger, and it makes us able to make better decisions later (even if the current one we’re struggling with was through no direct fault of our own), and most of all, the tough stuff makes us appreciate when things are good…making us better mates, parents, friends, etc.

    In any case, it still hurts when it hurts, so I’m sending you a big hug too. I sure hope you feel better soon, Pepper.

  6. Oh bless you, I hope today the sun literally comes out and it’s a better day.

  7. I agree w/ Rosie. It’s the hard parts of life that make us stronger. I think they make us have a stronger appreciation for life when things go well for us too. Sorry you are having a difficult time! Hoping life gets a little brighter for you soon :)

  8. Hope that you feel better soon. It’s difficult coping with emotions but I am sure that GOD will be there for you.

  9. Amy @mommetime says

    Yes, I think you are on to something… an app to erase emotional pain most certainly would ease our burdens, but then that isn’t reality. I once tried to drink and pop pills at my problems, but that didn’t work either. I hope you have someone you can share “gory details” with… sometimes the healing is in the details. I once thought no one would want to hear my ‘problems’…

    I’ve discovered that when I share, and they share, and we relate… healing begins. You are not alone!!!! Hugs to ya, Mama… Be kind to yourself!

  10. I hope you’re feeling a bit better today. I think that this is one of the benefits of getting older (well, if 39 is “older”)–we learn from past horrible experiences like breakups, death, and so on that as awful as those moments seem there will be a light at the end of the tunnel. Someday.

  11. hugs to you sis! God is always with us and stay close to your family at times like this:)

  12. oh Pepper – I understand completely how you feel. I’ve found (over recent experiences) the best thing to do is pray, hope, cry, hurt and know that in time healing comes. It’s not easy but I guess it’s the process life has worked out for us to be able to move on and leave behind, perhaps not forget, the hard parts. Big hugs love. xx

  13. Just coming over to visit today, hoping you’re having a really better day today. :) Have you tried a little music? It won’t cure you, but it can sure make you feel better for a little bit…get you dancing and happy. Why not have a little happy, even at our saddest? Right?

    Double hugs today!

    • Thanks Rosey :). I am feeling much better, thank you. I’m not up to dancing just yet :). Maybe tomorrow, I’ll do a Running Man.

  14. Would I wish for a gadget like that? I guess not. It’s not easy going through all those pains but I have realized that all those were necessary to make me who I am right now…stronger, braver and more trusting in Him. Nobody wants to be in pain. The physical pain is easier to deal with. Emotional pain is another story. But as they say, what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger…and you’re stronger than you realize, Pepper.

    I hope you’re much better now :-)

  15. mommy and papi says

    just want you to know that papi & i have you in our hearts & minds…most esp now that you’re mending a bruised heart…May God’s Healing Grace Be Upon You…Our Dearest Pepper…We Love You <3

  16. It is a process, isn’t it, and sometimes we get stuck in it going through the motions again and again. If you need to share with someone, please email me. Hope it all turns around for you soon xxx

  17. chris barnes says

    I feel your pain, life has a way of throwing strange curve balls that make us all feel like that. Life will improve just got to take to rough with the smooth

  18. When we are in emotional pain, sometimes all we need is someone who listens and understands us to make us feel better. Also, comforting words and actions may help loosen the distressed of our emotions.

  19. I can totally relate… Been an emotional mess. I am trying to understand it and over come it.. Nice to read about ur experience :-)

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