How to ease your kids into the idea of you dating again

Probably the most difficult thing for the kid of a single mom is to accept the fact that mommy might start dating again. This is because some kids hope in the deepest recesses of their hearts that mommy and daddy will get back together again. Some, on the other hand, just are not keen on the idea of sharing their mom’s attention with somebody else. As a single parent though, you must be aware that it would be healthy for you to start dating again, and that it isn’t something to delay until your kids are old enough. So, how do you get your kids used to the idea of you dating again?

Let your kids know about your plans. Tell them that you’d like to start dating again, but that doesn’t mean you’re seeking their permission, nor making any promises about the fate of your dating. You simply want to keep them in the loop on what your intentions are.

Give them an opportunity to express how they feel about your plans of dating again. Even if they can’t effectively verbalize their thoughts yet, what’s important is they are aware of their feelings and how your plans may affect them.

Do not stop spending quality time with your kids. You can assure your kids that they won’t lose you even if you start dating someone by continuing to spend time with them.

Overall, the goal is to show your kids that you love them wholeheartedly, and that if you date someone, that doesn’t mean you’re splitting your love between your kids and your date. In fact, you are expanding the circle of people whom you care deeply about.

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Comments

  1. I totally agree with you:)

  2. mommy jes says:

    whoa! parang ung mga napapanood ko sa movies n grabe ang mga reaction ng kids d b? goodluck sis…im sure they wil understand that. Na experience ko yan nung namatay papa ko tpos may bago na si mama ko…i was 10 that time pero okay lang sakin..sabi ko yey magkaka DADDY n kme :))

  3. Isidra Tarboro says:

    Dating can be a challenging topic for the majority of single parents. Being a single mother of a lovely son I frequently had conversations with my best friends about precisely how to deal with dating in addition to things to explain to my son.

  4. Clelia Kem says:

    Dating can be a challenging topic for the majority of single parents. Being a single mother of a lovely son I frequently had conversations with my best friends about precisely how to deal with dating in addition to things to explain to my son.

  5. wow this is a great tip for all single moms out there.

  6. well said sis :) you deserve the best!

  7. i think this is a smart move pep. live does not start and stop with kids, although they are kind of wonderful hitchhikers. but yeah, i think your ideas are good. :D

  8. I’ve been there and I know it’s hard. It’s a painful transition for both mom and kid so better break it slowly.

    By the way sis, I’ve already added your blog on my df list. :)

  9. John Parent says:

    Very Well put! My daughter is in the process of dating again and came to me for advice. She has 2 kids that both hate the idea. It’s a hard process but as long as she goes about it carefully I think she will be just fine. Thanks for the help!

    • I hope things go well for your daughter :). It’s not easy, but it’s manageable…

      • John Parent says:

        Thanks you for the words of encouragement. I forwarded her the link to your site, so I would expect her to be using your experiences to help her through this process!

  10. wow this is a great tip for all single moms out there.

  11. Green Planet Grass says:

    Great tip and very helpful to single moms too! :)

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