How to Help Your Kids Love School

You heave a huge sigh of relief as your little one finally boards the school bus and embarks on yet another school day adventure.  You plop yourself firmly on the couch, thankful that you have survived another morning-rush-turned-power-struggle with your kid.

If your child is one who dreads going to school, mornings are definitely going to be as tortuous as being caught in a nudist colony of hairy men.  More than the stress of the morning rush, you won’t be able to really enjoy the rest of your day if you know at the back of your mind that your kid hates going to school.  Here’s what you can do to help your child learn to love school:

Get him to school early.  A child may feel pangs of shyness when entering a classroom already full of kids, so it’s better for him to get there well before the place is packed.

Work with the teacher.  Without sounding as if you’re blaming her for your daughter’s school misery, ask the teacher how you two can team up in making your kid happier when in school.  Teachers tend to feel motivated when parents show that they care without telling them how they should teach.  Let the teacher know about how the situation is at home, so she can better come up with activities to help ease the kid through any transitional phase she may be going through.

Be proactive.  Even if you’re not too keen on rubbing elbows with that beehive-haired mom with blue eyeshadow, go ahead and join the PTA.  When you’re involved in school activities, your child realizes that his school is also part of your world.  It then becomes easier for you to get in touch with his teachers if and when you feel you need to talk to them about your kid.

Talk to your kid.  To bridge the gap between home and classroom, you must have an idea of what goes on in school.  If simply asking him, “So, how was your day?” leaves you wanting for more, you can try asking him more specific questions to get him talking:  “What book did the teacher read to you at storytime today?  ” And when he does start talking, give him your undivided attention and really listen.

Give yourself a pat on the back once you’ve finally succeeded at making your child love going to school.  Throw in a glass of wine, as you may very well need it to numb the pain of missing him as he merrily trots off to school.

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  1. I was easy to get to school when I started schooling. My parents just bribed me with a Rainbow Brite lunchbox and I was all set. Hehehe! =)

  2. Great advice!

  3. I definitely think that working with the teacher and talking to the child is essential when it comes to their feelings about school. I like to talk to my son about school to understand WHY he’s saying what he’s saying and where those thoughts are coming from. Whenever possible, I try to help him understand his feelings and sort through them. Then, it’s important that the teacher understands that as well. I must admit though, that I’m not a huge fan of the school my son is in this year. I’ve had to advocate for him for simple things like allowing me to walk with him to his classroom in the morning because they wanted parents (of 4 year olds) to drop them off at the school door and leave them to fend for themselves. But talking with his teacher helped a lot.

    • Communication with the teacher does help. It’s good that you were able to somehow fight for your rights as a parent to a 4-year old :).

  4. Really good tips and I love your description of the PTA ladies. :-) I found a way to be involved without being uber involved.. I join a couple commitee’s and try my best to go to all the parties and field trips I can for my daughter still in Elementary. As for my daughter in middle school… that’s a bit trickier. I just try to help out with teacher/school requests.

    • Yes, being uber involved is an entirely different ballgame. I don’t plan on going down that route either :). Just the right amount of involvement should work.

  5. Eli / Lois says

    ‘..caught in a nudist colony of hairy men’ huh? I like it! :)

    Got here from Zoan’s blog.. anyway, you have great tips here.. i think my wife naman, she promises our 4yr old (Sean) he can play with the Ipad after school :)

    We once tried homeschooling sean because he’s so shy.. decided that a school would be a better experience for him..

    I created a homeschooling info site pa naman :)

    • Hi! I guess putting Sean in a regular school does help with his socialization skills. I’ll go and check out your homeschooling site :)

  6. As a teacher I love these ideas, especially the whole working WITH your child’s teacher. Too often I just get the nasty e-mails/calls/visits from parents who blame everything on me! Sometimes their child’s issues have nothing to do with me OR my classroom, but that’s just the parent’s assumption. Great ideas!

    • Exactly! Teachers often take the heat for things they never did. It should be a partnership, not a battle. In the end, it’s all for the sake of the kids.

  7. It is key to talk and communicate with the teacher. I think being interested in what they are doing is also key. Great post

  8. Great post, it was VERY difficult for our little one to go to school. She went to school for the first two weeks crying, she was fine shortly after she got there but mornings were always rough. Thank goodness she out grew it! Your right a good relationship with the teacher helps tremendously. Thank You for sharing :)

  9. My son loves going to school so much! I had to make him skip school today because he woke up feeling a bit feverish because of his cough and colds. He was arguing with me for a good 30 minutes that he didn’t want to be ‘absent’. LOL!

  10. I have to say I’ve been blessed with kids who really didn’t have too much trouble getting to school–it was the talking about the day that was like pulling teeth. We made it a game at the dinner table EVERONE (Mom&Dad too) had to share THREE things about the day. Its halped to see that everyone was sharing and although sometimes we’d get answers like- I had gym, I ate lunch I got on the bus home–sometimes after others answered we’d get more of a story.

    Great post! Poped in with vB–now Following G+

    • Talking about how each of your days went is somewhat therapeutic, isn’t it? Makes for great bonding too :).

  11. Barbara Mascareno says

    Great tips! So amazing how kids can be so overwhelmed when they are in new places. But helping them through it all with care and concern can ease the anxiety. I agree that communicate is key when dealing with these anxiety pains :(

  12. OMG, our PTA is filled with all the cheerleaders from local high schools. It is absolutely perky.

  13. These are great suggestions. With four girls the mornings can seem more marathon than sprint. My attitude so often dictates how things go. I need to remember that.

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