Feed the Need: How to Give Your Child the Affection He Needs

There’s one glaring reason I listen to PSY’s Gangnam song and One Direction’s tracks:  I love my daughter.  Whatever she likes, I like more.  I find myself helplessly drawn to anything and everything she fancies.

But loving our kids isn’t just about listening to their music and watching their favorite TV shows.  It’s also about being demonstrative with our feelings for them.  Do you sometimes wonder why they act up?  It’s because they clamor for your attention and affection.  If you rub your pet dog’s hair, shouldn’t you do the same to your kid?  It’s one thing for them to know that we love them, but it’s an entirely different ballgame when we SHOW them that.

Showing your kid affection isn’t all that difficult.  There are a lot of ways to do that.

Time for tenderness.  In a day, there are numerous opportunities to sprinkle your kid with some tenderness.  I personally enjoy braiding my daughter’s hair while chatting with her.  That simple gesture of my fingers brushing through her hair sends off a million love signals.  Even just getting them dressed for school or tucking them into bed at night assures them of your steadfast love.

Make remembrances.  Even when you’re away, you can still show your kid the affection he needs.  You can make him a collage of your trip.  Or if it’s your kid who’s leaving, you can sneak in a note inside his bag.

The power of hugs.  Hug your kid in the best of times, and even in the worst of times.  No matter how busy you are, you can always give your kid a quick hug- even in the middle of doing the laundry.  The bigger challenge is in hugging her after you’ve just told her off about something she’s done.  That helps melt away the anger, and reconnects you with that tiny creature who you love so dearly.

When you show your kid you love him, you help build his self-esteem.  He grows up more equipped to take on any curveball life may throw at him.

So, kiss and hug away.  Because the best things in life are free.

About Pepper

I am a single working mom, trying to raise my kid the best way I know how. Join me as I navigate my way through the jungle that is Single Mom-hood, armed with rose-colored glasses and strength of spirit. As pepper adds spice to food, so does my daughter add spice to my life. She makes life no less than…PEPPERRIFIC!

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  1. Hugging and saying I love you are things we do on a regular basis in my family – I love mama hugs!

    Some people, especially those who have not been shown this kind of affection, feel awkward, but practice makes it easier and the rewards are beyond compare.

  2. ErikaRodica.com says

    I totally agree to this post! I make sure to hug and kiss my daughter all the time. Starting from the moment we wake up until before we go to sleep :) I think this is also why she’s turning out to be a sweet little doll.

  3. I still don’t have kids but I surely will in the future so I’ll keep this stuff in mind :) I love it when my mom hugs me :)

  4. Very true sissy Pepper. My kids especially my eldest daughter is more KSP(Kulang sa Pansin) compared to her younger sister. Maybe because when she was 4 years old I give birth to her baby sister and our bonding moment got shortened, my attention is more of her sister. And now she’s a teenager she is more dramatic and emotional she wanted my attention..kaya bumabawi ako sa kanya now.

  5. This is a great post, and I agree, the best things in life are free. I love when the kiddos are young enough to love lovin’s. :)

  6. Thank you for sharing these great tips. You should always strive to spend quality time with your child. The amount of time isn’t always important.

  7. My son is a very affectionate kid. He kisses and hugs me in public, and even says “I love you Mommy” even when there are lots of people around him. I wonder if he’ll still do this once he enters puberty. Haha!

  8. The magic of amazing touches and sweet little gestures :)
    and I must admit I belong to that group hehe.
    Since I am the youngest and only girl I am very affectionate with my parents especially my mom.
    Thanks for sharing :)

  9. These are some great tips! Always believed and showering my family with hugs and kind words!

  10. These are some great tips! Always believed and showering my family with hugs and kind words! Thanks for the comment on my featured blog.

  11. Kathy Ngo says

    I havent been the best Mom lately but I do try to give him these things when I can. Good thing is kaya ko pa bumawi with my kid which I plan to do.

  12. Your daughter is lucky to have you as her mom. Those hugs and remembrances would surely give her something to hold on to as she grows up.

  13. Prashant Patil says

    Thank You for sharing great tips.

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