Insecurity is the root of all evil

They say money is the root of all evil, right? So is insecurity. It is the wellspring of all things negative. Once it hits you, it takes control of every aspect of your personality, and in turn, affects your relationships. It seeks to destroy, instead of to build.

Insecurity takes on many forms. One of which, is jealousy (the unreasonable kind). Bouts of jealousy are normal, and sometimes even healthy in a relationship. But when you get jealous for seemingly no sane reason, things do start to go awry.

We can trace our insecurities from our past childhood experiences. Whatever we are right now is greatly influenced by what we went through as a child. If you had a pretty tough childhood, lacking in parental love and guidance, chances are, you’d grow up somewhat insecure and constantly seeking for affirmation from others.

Other more deep-seated issues may be the underlying cause for our insecurities. In the case of such, we might have to seek professional help. Otherwise, we should be able to deal with these on our own, or preferably, with the help of trusted people who know us best.

As a line from the Desiderata goes:

“You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here”.

So stand tall, stand proud! Leave your insecurities behind.

About Pepper

I am a single working mom, trying to raise my kid the best way I know how. Join me as I navigate my way through the jungle that is Single Mom-hood, armed with rose-colored glasses and strength of spirit. As pepper adds spice to food, so does my daughter add spice to my life. She makes life no less than…PEPPERRIFIC!

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  1. Great article! If I may add, I think that it’s normal that most of us feel insecure at some point of our lives. IT’s how we react and cope up that matters the most :)

  2. lately, i’ve been receiving hate messages from the ex-wife of my boyfriend… I believe it’s because of jealous and insecurity and I guess that’s normal for someone who was left out…

    I just wish I would be able to have more self control for me not to respond on everything she says…

    Sometimes it pisses me off, especially those untrue statements that she’s throwing on me…

  3. MommyLES says

    Desiderata is one of our favorite (hubby and I) – and as much as possible we try to live by it. I am such a jealous it’s related to my past experiences..but hubby assured me time and again..that he is already past the stage of being a happy-go-lucky guy..and I guess I have to rely on his words or else our relationship will fall apart.. :)

  4. I’ve thought this for a while too and googled the phrase to find this post – surprised there are so few of us who’ve voiced this (thanks!). It seems like from wars (religious, political, etc),to drug addiction, to run-of-the-mill jealousy, insecurity or lack of self love is the root (imagine what a loveless subconscious does to our mental capacity and our bodies)…insecurity makes being “better than” feel good…
    if we all spent more time loving ourselves, we could love others so much more fully, and let the peace back in.
    it may be normal for us to feel insecure but it doesn’t mean we should accept it; love it to death! – get up everyday and let your heart ache with love for your own humanity without labels of good or bad, then teach our friends and family to do the same. a life lesson we should never forget. thanks for your voice and letting me share mine.

    • Wow, do you blog too? I’d love to hear more about what you have to say about other things in life. Everything you said makes perfect sense. Yes, we should all try to love ourselves more.

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