My Life: Are You In It?

When I was in seventh grade, I gave a speech in class on this topic: “Enjoy life, do not fear death”.  Until now, I can vividly remember my teacher nodding in agreement almost all throughout my spiel.  My classmates were so quiet that you could hear a pin or a bead of sweat drop.

I can’t recall much of what I said back then.  What I do remember is saying that we should make the most of our lives, and not be afraid of death, because it is a gateway to a different kind of life.  It is not the end, but the beginning of something new.

Now, I don’t think I can say those words with much conviction.  I have to admit that death is something that freaks me out like an unwanted pimple on a date night.  It’s not so much about the pain of death, but the fact that I’ll be leaving behind my daughter and the other people dearest to me.  Thinking about my departure from this world leaves me with a heavy heart and an uneasy stomach.

I have this tendency to get attached to people I meet.  This is probably one of the reasons I spend some of my free time scouring the net for people I have lost touch with.   Some of them, I can’t find on Facebook, so I’ve started searching on this “people search engine” called which helps you find long lost friends, lovers or co-workers.  It feels refreshing to be able to connect with old friends.

The Beatles’ song, In My Life now plays in my head.  I continue to reflect on my life and the people I’ve met.  I loved them all… I love them all…

About Pepper

I am a single working mom, trying to raise my kid the best way I know how. Join me as I navigate my way through the jungle that is Single Mom-hood, armed with rose-colored glasses and strength of spirit. As pepper adds spice to food, so does my daughter add spice to my life. She makes life no less than…PEPPERRIFIC!

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  1. Whoah – that’s a hard topic. I feel the same – desptire sometimes struggling with my emotions i just love my life because of the people who I share it with. My poppet has starting asking about it lately – shes becoming conscious of mortality. I believe in God but still … I’d be quite content to live here forever as long as i can be with my loved ones and make positive changes so the world is a better place.

    • How do you answer your poppet when she asks you about death? My daughter told me just now that she wishes nobody ever dies.

  2. The Detox Diva says

    Oh I had topics a lot like that one in school…. Those are the tough ones. I am sure you handled with grace and ease. I have only recently started looking for my classmates but I am going to use MyLife.

  3. Hi life reflections is one of the best way to learn.

  4. I don’t want to dwell on the topic of death, rather, let’s all live a full and meaningful life. :)

  5. I fear death too… but much like how life is precious, I try not to dwell on it too much. It helps to just enjoy each and every day to the fullest. Of course it wouldn’t help to ignore death and force one’s self to forget it, but what I’m trying to say is that I try to accept that it’s just a part of life. I think if you see it that way, the feeling gets lighter.

  6. I believe in the saying that we only have one life to live, make the most out of it.


  7. It’s true! We should all live our lives to the fullest. Be happy all the time.

  8. I don’t fear death in fact I have imagined the kind of funeral I want to have. I think I have lived the most colorful life an continue to enjoy all the beautiful things life has to offer

  9. I know that I am in your life sis, I have touch you in some way and that meeting you online has a purpose. Nice meeting you :)

    • Yes, Zoan, you are definitely part of my life. Although we haven’t personally met yet, I draw inspiration from you. Because you used to be a single mom (You aren’t anymore, am I right?), and you also went through a long distance relationship at some point. I hope we could meet someday :)

  10. Indeed, it’s hard to leave this earth when you’re a mom because you are responsible for those souls whom God has entrusted to you to love and nurture. I had a hard time explaining death to my 6-year-old son; he said he doesn’t want Mommy and Daddy to die because he’d be left all alone. That statement always breaks my heart.

  11. Living life to the fullest and appreciating whatever you have is better then living in fear of death.

  12. Megan Tylock says

    I don’t usually think about death that often. I just live my life to the fullest that I can and take one day at a time.

  13. Carla Barilá Karam says

    Pepper.. your post reminds me of a song sung and written by Alanis Morissette, You Learn… “You live, you learn… you love you learn… etc” I can only imagine your spiel being a wonderful thought provoking one! Great job. Grace, peace and blessings, Carla

  14. I fear not having things in order when I die… I lived in FL for many years, worked at the same place, had the life insurance, burial, etc. all taken care of (because I knew I wasn’t moving), and then I moved. Out of state. And my retirement, life insurance, burial spot, all went kaput with the (necessary) move.

    So now I’m kind of old to be dealing w/things like this that should have (were) been done a long time ago, and I’m scared to leave untied ends that my family would have to deal with if I passed before I get to them!

  15. I have to admit that I have thought about dieing a few times, but I don’t dwell on it or think of it very much. I can’t say that I am not a little afraid of dieing… well not afraid, I just want to live forever and that is what our creator originally intended for us, right? I have thought about how my children would feel if I did die, and I know they wouldn’t take it well at all, and that is what scares me about the whole business. I do think we shouldn’t fear death, but live life to the best of our ability and be happy while doing it.

  16. Emiliana Martin says

    “something that freaks me out like an unwanted pimple on a date night”
    That’ phrase is brilliant. However, for me I look at death this way: You can’t threaten me with Heaven. I look forward to the reunion with my husband and other loved ones. I trust that Jesus will be with my kids after I exchange my earthly address for a Heavenly one. I’m not fearing death because Jesus is alive. He overcame the grave so I could have the life I have today. If you are afraid of death with all my heart I lovingly encourage you to learn more about Jesus. There’s no need to fear death. Everything’s gonna be alright.

    • Thanks for the insight. Yes, I should look at it from your perspective. Jesus will take care of the people I’ll leave behind.

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