Domestic Violence: When It’s Time to Take Action

If there’s one thing I can’t stand, it’s those forwarded chain-letter type text messages.  Whenever I receive one, I just go right ahead and delete it.  But yesterday, for some reason, I took the time to read one of those messages from an old friend.  And then, I had this gnawing feeling that I just had to call her.  So, I did.  And what I learned after that simply shocked the living daylights out of me.

She was a physically and verbally abused wife.

She and her husband have been married for 11 years now, and I assumed all along that the reason she never showed up for any of our get-togethers was that she was basking in married bliss.  Little did I know that she was suffering and trapped in a living hell.

For the first time in ages, she has poured her heart out to someone about her dilemma.  I just listened…dumbfounded… in disbelief…  And then, I mustered enough courage to finally say something.

I offered help.  I told her that we can’t just take it as it is.  We must take legal action.  Naturally, the idea scared her witless.   After much prodding, I think I was able to convince her to talk to my lawyer and try to come up with a plan of action.

From what I’ve read, domestic violence (physical and or verbal abuse within a relationship) is usually deemed a misdemeanor.   Once convicted, the individual will have that on his permanent record.  It’s called a “non-expungable” offense.    As for the victim, it is highly important for her- or him- to seek legal help.  The law aims to prevent any further violence- and sometimes, even death.

I know it won’t be an easy road to take, but she says she’s going to take it anyway.  I will virtually hold her hand throughout this ordeal.