The Magic of Magic Words: Teaching Kids- and Grown Ups- To Say “Please” and “Thank You”

In my line of work, I have to deal with children every single day.  What I do is not for the faint of heart, that I can say with certainty.  In the middle of all the shushes and tests of patience, I always remind them to use the magic words “Please” and “Thank You”.

These words are called magic words for a reason.  They bring a smile to even the most downtrodden employee.  If somebody politely asks you to help her look for a book on elephants, you’d feel compelled to willingly help her despite the fact that you’ve been buried under tons of work for the past hour.  And when you hear a Thank You after you’ve helped her, that’s simply music to your ears.

Magic words are polite ways to show somebody that you appreciate whatever it is he or she has done for you.  We are all wrapped up in our own preoccupations, so it really does take a lot for one to go the extra mile to lend you a hand.  The least he or she deserves is a Thank You.

As parents, teaching our kids the habit of saying please and thank you is similar to passing on the torch of good values to them.  It signifies our love for them, our intent to mold them into respectful individuals.  This habit instills in our kids the value of gratitude.  They learn to appreciate what other people do for them.

Even as grown ups, we should always remember to say these magic words.  It says a lot about how well-mannered we are.  No matter how hunky you are, if you don’t know how to say Thank You, that is a MAJOR turnoff!

It doesn’t take much to say Please or Thank You.  Remember to use these magic words, and you’re sure to brighten someone’s day.







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  1. Agree. That’s why even if my son is cranky he still says please with the cranky voice and it’s cute really. Hehe

  2. It is indeed a magic to one’s ears saying Please, Thank You and Sorry. It just eases up one’s down feelings and feels comforted saying those words.

  3. I could not agree more! Even though I do end up having to remind the kids at least ten times a day!

  4. This is so true! Lately, I’ve been watching our Twilight Zone news we have here, and just feeling like our society is so mean and rude to each other, and we’ve forgotten just basic courtesies like “please” and “thank you”. It really is that simple, huh. Just be nice:)

  5. I agree, good manners go a long way whether it’s children, or an adult using them.

    I agree too with what Courtney said about just being nice.

    Have a great rest of the week!

  6. Totally agreed. And if kids hear the adults in their life using these words and showing respect, the kids are likely to behavior similarly (IMHO!)

  7. I agree 1000% when I was teaching my class learned quickly if they didn’t say “PLEASE” for something I didn’t acknowledge their request.

  8. Great post! We are having the difficulty with this right now. No matter how many times we repeat it and try to get our son to say it, it just doesn’t come naturally. We have to add them on to all the commands!

  9. “Please” and “Thank you” can win any body.We should teach our kids daily to use these two words.Thanks for sharing such a great post.Thanks.

  10. I agree kids today aren’t always taught proper manners and it is exciting to see a child who does. It isn’t hard to teach them, in fact, we taught the baby when he was small. He has been using his manners since he was a 12-18 months. Parents also have to model the behavior that they expect their kids to follow.

  11. So true! What’s really challenging is getting the teenage brothers and sisters to say please and thank you around the little ones! But as always, it starts with us!

  12. Totally agreed. And if kids hear the adults in their life using these words and showing respect, the kids are likely to behavior similarly (IMHO!)

  13. Love this! Love your blog in general, from 1 single mama to another You ROCK!

  14. Nice & great post ! I do 100% agree with successfully summary of this post. This is really helpful post to well understand about Please” and “Thank You”

  15. Hi,
    yeah i totally agree with you my friend really these two word are magical and infact bring a smile on every face when a kid says it . I m glad to read your post and i thank you for writing and sharing such a wonderful post with us

  16. I agree! If possible nga, start them really early and make sure the parents themselves and the people around them are also practicing good manners. It makes it easier for them to learn by example. =)

  17. Laurel Avery says

    This is why using “magic words” is so important in creating a close, connected, vital and alive relationship.

  18. Those are definitely magic words to teach our kids. They diffuse tension during hard moments. No wonder the Bible says in Proverbs 15 vs 1 :

    ” a soft answer turns away wrath”

    We need these two words as adults. Especially, in those moments when we’re almost losing our cool. Thanks for sharing!

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