Why Worrying is Worthless

I am definitely no historian but I can say with conviction that never in the history of humankind has anyone ever benefited from worry. Sure you know what worry is. It’s that emotion Lindsay Lohan didn’t feel a bit of when she posed for the January 2012 issue of Playboy.

We don’t gain anything from worry, yet it’s something we do all too often. We worry over little things and big things. Your worries range from thinking about your kid’s future, to getting that last square in Party Bingo, to fretting over the fact that you’ve missed 2 issues from your subscription to Single Moms Gone Wild- Biweekly Edition.

I, for one, am admittedly a helpless worrywart. I worry about every single thing. And when things are going ok, I worry that I have nothing to worry about. It’s a vicious cycle that just kills me.

Worry is paralyzing. When we obsess about what has yet to happen, we lose whatever opportunities for happiness the present has to offer. Instead of merrily brushing the mane of your daughter’s My Little Pony, your mind has floated away to your office boardroom. Worry simply zaps the life out of you.

My cousin advised me to remember my “circle of control”. The things which belong to that circle are the ones which I have control over. Anything outside of that is simply beyond me, and I’ll just have to learn to trust God with those. It’s up to us, then, to identify those which we can control, and the things we can’t.

A friend once said that “worry is an insult to God”. Right. When we worry, it’s akin to thinking that God is not in charge. Even if things don’t go as planned, we should know better to believe that in the grander scheme of things, it’s all for the best.

It’s only a few days until Christmas, and this would be the perfect time to be in the “no-worry” zone. Have a truly Merry Christmas, everyone!

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Comments

  1. I’ve referred to the circle of control many, many times in my life. While it’s great in theory (and in practice, for those who can quit worrying), I find it difficult to stop worrying about those things that are outside my circle. But, I’m much better than I used to be. As I get older, a lot more things roll off my back that would’ve once driven me crazy.

    • I guess it really is difficult not to worry about things beyond us. It will take a lot of practice. I know I have much to learn. It’s good you’re better off now than before :)

  2. Kris Edison says

    Yes, it may be worthless. But believe it or not, I am a pessimist and I am always trying to make my worries, fear, sadness into something that force me to go on. Happy holidays!

  3. What a poignant and true blog!! Worry is paralyzing. It’s so easy to get sucked into that worry vortex though!! Like you said though, God is in charge and sometimes we just have to let go and trust in His plan!! Great blog.

    • Yup, once you’re sucked into that worry vortex, it’s extremely difficult to break free. We just have to hang on to our faith.

  4. Another Pepperrific Post! :)
    Worrying never solved a problem. Give it to God. Trust Him and keep it moving.
    Have a Blessed and Merry Christmas.

  5. Circle of Control hmmm.. I’ll remember that. There are times I worry about everything too especially for the kid but we just gotta live life one day at a time.

  6. That’s for sure worrying does not make much sense but as humans we have a hard time not to. Thought not worrying means you have an entire faith in God, which is good, a place I would love to be in one day!

    Have a lovely and peaceful Christmas.

  7. reminds me of a poem i read way back which goes something like this:

    there are only two things to worry about,
    whether you are well or you are sick.
    if you are well, there is nothing to worry about.
    if you are sick, there are only two things to worry about,
    whether you get better or you die.
    if you get better, there is nothing to worry about,
    if you die, there are only two things to worry about,
    whether you go to heaven or you go to hell.
    if you go to heaven, there is nothing to worry about,
    if you go to hell, you’ll be damn busy shaking hands with friends,
    you’ll have no time to worry!

    a worry-free Christmas to you Pepper! :)

  8. It’s true..worrying won’t get you anywhere.. however not to worry about stuff is sometimes extremely difficult.

  9. Kristy @PampersandPinot says

    Yes, I am proud of myself this year for getting things taken care of and now having a moment to just enjoy the holiday season without a bunch of fretting!

  10. Oh so true! Worrying will drive you crazy…but it’s so hard not to do it.

  11. Wishing you a worry-free Christmas! =)

  12. I’m with you on the no-worry zone. My mother always tells me “If you’re going to pray, don’t worry. If you’re going to worry, don’t pray.” I have to remember to choose to pray.

  13. I could totally relate to this post. I am a chronic worrier. Funny as it may sound, when I am really worried, I read the Desiderata and there is a passage from it that states “You are a child of the universe; no less than the trees and the stars, you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.”. Gets me every time. Merry Christmas to you!

    • Oh I love the Desiderata! I used to always quote from that :). Thanks for reminding me of its message. Yes, I especially like that last line…”the universe is unfolding as it should”….

  14. I have two remedies I use for myself when I catch myself worrying
    1- Play out the worst case scenario–its usually not that bad, and if I make it bad,then the probability of it happening is nearly non-existent
    2-Hold to the faith and knowing that everything always works out the way its supposed to–always.

    Enjoy the rest of the holiday season!!

  15. Optimistic Mom says

    Love this message! Worry doesn’t help….but I have been guilty of this, you know once or twice. ;)
    Somehow some way we have to use that energy to produce something positive.

    • Right, but it’s sometimes so difficult to redirect that energy once we’ve been consumed by worry. Have a merry Christmas :)

  16. Something that works for me when I have to deal with worrying is journaling. I get it out on paper (or on the screen lately) and then I can move on and somehow I don’t need to go over things in my head again and again.

    Merry Christmas!

  17. What a GREAT post! I am a worry war, too! I was once waiting for the results of a biopsy and started stitching a sampler that says, “Worry never robs tomorrow of it’s sorrow, it only saps today of it’s strength”. Whenever I worry too much – I remember that saying!

    Merry Christmas back atcha!

  18. Why worry when you can pray?

  19. I saw the title of this post and couldn’t help but click on it.

    Worrying is my (unofficial) middle name. It is, by far, the biggest struggle of my life.

    Glad to meet someone who understands and who gave me a good reminder for this Wednesday morning….God is in charge!

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