5 Habits of Highly Harried Moms

If you feel like you’re Julie Andrews, running through the hills singing at the top of your voice, then you are most probably dreaming.

In today’s fast-paced world, it’s almost impossible for us moms to simply throw caution to the wind and romp about aimlessly.  Every nook and cranny of our brain is preoccupied with thoughts of a thousand and one chores and office reports.  With our busy lifestyles, we all too often make mountains out of molehills and worry over the littlest things.  Tiny issues escalate into humungous problems which precariously overwhelm us.  Here are some of the habits of highly stressed moms:

Putting oneself last.  It’s almost inherent in moms to put themselves at the bottom of their priorities list.  Without batting an un-mascaraed eyelash, you’d gladly give up a tall cup of frapuccino for a hotdog for your kid.  When you put the needs of others before you, sure it’s an unspoken token of love, but in the end, your sanity pays the price for it.  Don’t be surprised if giving up that night out with the girls to look after your toddler subconsciously makes you cranky.

Zero recreation.  Everybody deserves a break from the humdrum of daily life.  I’m not saying that looking after your kids is humdrum.  It’s just that once in a while, it is refreshing to indulge in whatever it is you love to do.  Something as simple as a quick walk around the block will help refresh your soul.   Think exercise, hobbies, getting together with friends.

Worry worship.  Moms who are overly agitated tend to put worry on a pedestal.  If you fret too much about the future- and every minute thing in the present- you end up harassing yourself with unnecessary problems.  Remember, worry is a useless emotion because there’s only so much about the future we have control over.

Watching too much TV.  It’s absolutely pathetic to waste your time in front of the TV, what with all the mixed subliminal messages TV shows send their viewers.  Even a show seemingly as harmless as Glee can make you want things you can’t have.   Seeing Lisa Kudrow do mom roles in movies is a clear reminder that worthwhile shows such as Friends are a thing of the past.   Well, if you must watch TV, do it moderately.  You can instead spend some of your free time doing relaxing things such as reading a good book, or even knitting if you’re up to it.  Doing calming activities help make you mindful of the present moment, thus taking your mind away from useless worry.

Doing too much too soon.  Because we moms want to achieve a lot of things in as little time possible, we tend to overwork ourselves to the extent of burnout.  The key is in breaking things down into bite-size chunks.  Tackle one task or goal at a time, and your blood pressure wouldn’t have to pay the price.

If you want a major mindset overhaul, you can start to try banishing the above habits from your system.  Nobody said it was easy, but it is possible if you put your mind to it. Ultimately, your husband and kids will benefit from a happier you.  It’s an excellent way to start the new year, don’t you think?

 

About Pepper

I am a single working mom, trying to raise my kid the best way I know how. Join me as I navigate my way through the jungle that is Single Mom-hood, armed with rose-colored glasses and strength of spirit. As pepper adds spice to food, so does my daughter add spice to my life. She makes life no less than…PEPPERRIFIC!

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Comments

  1. I needed to read this tonight. Every single point is so true!!! I must bookmark this to re-read on days where I put worry on a pedestal and need to refocus and get back on track!

  2. Love this! So, so true…thanks for the reminder! Gotta take care of ourselves to take care of our kiddos and that’s so easily overlooked in the hustle and bustle.

  3. How very true. And thanks for reminding that worrying is completely futile. If you focus on what you can do now instead of what you can’t, then you’d be more productive!

  4. Some very good points there. Found myself nodding the whole way throught! All the very best for the New Year!

  5. how true! I gave up tv about 10 years ago..one of the best decsions I ever made! No one in our house watches TV..cazy, but we don’t miss a thing and our time is now ours!

  6. Wow, Pepper, you nailed this one. Great post!

  7. Such a good list…we moms need this reality check!

  8. You go Girl! Moms rule, as usual! It’s about time we all wake up from being the last on the family list, we all deserve a good breaker once in a while and remember, as moms we also have needs!
    Bless you and more power specially on the year 2012.
    And sis I need help, hope you could follow me up also!

  9. Holy mackerel sis! I am guilty! Grabe… I think since 2012 na, and I have a new job in Feb. (fresh start in my career), I think I can find time to slow down and focus on the essential. I feel and look old because of the unnecessary worries I have – work related pa… Not really worthy to channel my energy to.

    2012 must be more about family and own welfare. I’ll keep a tab on this post.

    Happy New Year sis and God Bless always!

    Hugs,
    Ria

  10. I can so relate to this. The past few years have been insane for me. Sometimes even sleep is luxury! This year I vow to a healthier, well-balanced life for me. After all, a happy mom raises happy kids. :)

  11. I am so guilty for putting myself last. I am trying to work on it.

  12. Taunya Richards says

    Wow! Pepper this is a timely reminder. I’m going to retweet. Thank you for sharing on VB

  13. Priorities it is!!!
    When we put God first (trust Him, worry less), family second (who has time for TV?) and ourselves third (but not last), we achieve healthy balance. :)

    Great post!

  14. sleep paralysis says

    All that you have written can be applied to ordinary mortals, not only to the Moms. maybe not all tose 5 habits in one bottle but still. But if all you get to combine-become my mom.)) Thanks for the article and scream of your soul, And a lot of sleep</em))

  15. Really enjoyed reading this article, it took me back to when my daughters were very young and we were working several jobs as well as looking after the children!
    On reflection, I think we should bear in mind that we are working hard in this life to help make our futures and our happiness. If you are way too busy and missing out on the basic things that make you feel happy and human, then what’s the point?
    My respectfully offerd recommendation is to take a careful look at what you are doing in life and see if you can make some changes to make you feel a little happier and fulfilled?

  16. Natalie says

    And thanks for reminding that worrying is completely futile. If you focus on what you can do now instead of what you can’t, then you’d be more productive…

  17. Andy jones says

    Very good points were mentioned in this article.Especially About watching too
    much Television.TV just waists your time!

  18. Many women neglect themselves, put themselves last. Working with your kids is great, if you don’t forget yourself in the process. Anyway, very important article.

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