A Single Mom’s Kryptonite

Sans the cape, skin-tight leotards, and underwear worn as outerwear, single parents are known to be superheroes in their own right. They may not have the power to bend steel bars with their bare hands or become invisible in the face of danger, but single parents have the unusual ability to raise their kids alone.

We single moms possess the uncanny ability to be both father and mother to our kids. Truth be told, that is no easy feat. We try our hardest to take on the responsibility of both parents. We try to push our mental and physical strength to the limit, just so we can meet the multi-faceted needs of our growing children.

Given the numerous responsibilities single moms have to juggle in the air, day in day out, it makes you sometimes think that there is absolutely nothing they can’t do. Single moms are notorious for overdoing things and pushing themselves to the limit, just so they can make up for the lack of the other-sex parent in bringing up their kids. They aim to overcome all imaginable obstacles just to make sure that their kids grow up to be well-adjusted adults.

Just as superman has his kryptonite, single moms likewise have something which never fails to weaken their powers. It doesn’t come in the form of a glowing green rock, though. A single mom’s weakness is showing her emotions. By emotions, I mean the heart-wrenching, scoop-your-guts- out type of sadness. Because we single moms have so many responsibilities to attend to every single day, we simply cannot afford to wallow in sorrow, whatever the cause of that sorrow may be. Locking yourself up in your room to cry your lungs out for a day just won’t cut it. That will leave your precious kid helpless and malnourished as she stuffs her mouth with unhealthy potato chips in lieu of dinner.

That being the case, we single moms have amassed the necessary skill of detaching ourselves from our emotions. Whenever something saddens us, the most we are allowed to do is let a teardrop or two trickle from each eye. After that, it’s just back to helping junior with his math homework. There is just no time to be depressed, because our kids depend on us-just us-to look after them.

At the end of the day, we single moms realize that we are only human… and that we don’t have the guts to wear those skin-tight leotards in broad daylight.

About Pepper

I am a single working mom, trying to raise my kid the best way I know how. Join me as I navigate my way through the jungle that is Single Mom-hood, armed with rose-colored glasses and strength of spirit. As pepper adds spice to food, so does my daughter add spice to my life. She makes life no less than…PEPPERRIFIC!

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Comments

  1. Hi Pepper! Thank you for dropping a comment at my blog. It is very much appreciated.

    I am a proud single parent too (though married in papers) but life is a challenge doing a dual role to my daughter. But then, this is better than living together with someone who is not supportive just like u are being alone. Buti pa this way, single, mom and dad into one, and i own my time. ^^

    Cheer up! Maybe this is just one of your lowly days. Smile always.
    Think positive. It helps.

    • Hi Arlene, me too, I’m still married in paper hehe… I agree with you, we are better off without our kids’ fathers :)

  2. ok *raising two hands up*..weeeeeeeee..and I am proud to be a Single Mom :)

    sis your right being in our situation is not easy..but honestly kasi I am alone with my 2 kids sa haws and sometimes I cry..there are certain issues that I can’t help but cry it has been actually my outlet of my emotions when my kids are sleeping..but your right sis kasi when I feel depressed..there is something inside me saying you have no time to be sad and depressed because your needs you..I guess being a single mom gave me a reason and taught me to be strong for my kids..

    being a single mom for me has taught me many things and I have been through a lot of pain but these pains have made me stronger..seeing my kids grow up and being loved the way that they should deserve..a hug and a kiss is my reward..sarap maging nanay when you see your kids loving you back :)

    being a single mom for me is a blessing..it gave me an opportunity to grow and mature plus an inspiration syempre from “my quiet angel” :)

    • It’s ok to cry when your kids are asleep. We do need to vent out those feelings, don’t we? We are only human. You are lucky you have your quiet angel :)

  3. im not a single mom but raising a kid is already hard enough, I can only guess how hard it could be for single moms, as you mentioned, it is tough.

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  4. hats off to single moms! I do have a friend who is also a single mom and I really look up to her how she holds strong for her daughter. Hold on tight there, because the greatest reward you get is the undivided love you get from your little one too!

    hugs!

    Spanish Pinay

  5. I can only imagine how hard it is to be a single mom, being a mom is hard enough, but doing it alone is even harder, hats off to you! :)

    I’m not a single mom but sometimes I do feel the need to cry and just let it all out, but I don’t want to freak my kids out, so I just blog about it.. :D One day when they read my blog, they’ll be thankful I spared them of the drama and all the crazy.. :D

  6. This can be a weakness for all of us, but I applaud your ability to put your emotions aside for the benefit of your little one. My mom couldn’t always do that, and it was hard for me to see her that way! But it happens, right? :)

    @}—-Rosie

    • Yes, Rosie, sometimes we can’t keep our emotions under wraps, as hard as we try. And it’s the little one who gets severly affected.

  7. Hello.. thanks for the comments :-)… i am still single so I don’t have children but i sure believe and approved what you wrote.. Nice one!!! many single mom can relate even not sinle mom.. hehe

  8. Pepper, sometimes you’re so right it scares me a little. Scared in a good way, not like an evil villian way.

    But yes. I have noticed in the two years since becoming a single Mom I am very guarded, really no choice. But I wasn’t always. It is so hard so let the wall down when you have to. I always hate that I tell myself this, “why am I feeling sorry for myself, it could be worse”. I think that it is good to feel sad and depressed sometimes, feel the emotion. But saying that and doing that are very different things.

    Don’t tempt me with the spandex super-hero get-up. I’d do it. If I wasn’t scared that Kat, from Mama’s Losin’ It, would sue me, I’d be all over that and post it up on my blog in a heartbeat.

  9. agree! and i do think you’re doing a great, great job raising your kid alone. even super-heroes can’t beat that :)

    hugs,
    ria c

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