Why Worrying is Worthless

I am definitely no historian but I can say with conviction that never in the history of humankind has anyone ever benefited from worry. Sure you know what worry is. It’s that emotion Lindsay Lohan didn’t feel a bit of when she posed for the January 2012 issue of Playboy.

We don’t gain anything from worry, yet it’s something we do all too often. We worry over little things and big things. Your worries range from thinking about your kid’s future, to getting that last square in Party Bingo, to fretting over the fact that you’ve missed 2 issues from your subscription to Single Moms Gone Wild- Biweekly Edition.

I, for one, am admittedly a helpless worrywart. I worry about every single thing. And when things are going ok, I worry that I have nothing to worry about. It’s a vicious cycle that just kills me.

Worry is paralyzing. When we obsess about what has yet to happen, we lose whatever opportunities for happiness the present has to offer. Instead of merrily brushing the mane of your daughter’s My Little Pony, your mind has floated away to your office boardroom. Worry simply zaps the life out of you.

My cousin advised me to remember my “circle of control”. The things which belong to that circle are the ones which I have control over. Anything outside of that is simply beyond me, and I’ll just have to learn to trust God with those. It’s up to us, then, to identify those which we can control, and the things we can’t.

A friend once said that “worry is an insult to God”. Right. When we worry, it’s akin to thinking that God is not in charge. Even if things don’t go as planned, we should know better to believe that in the grander scheme of things, it’s all for the best.

It’s only a few days until Christmas, and this would be the perfect time to be in the “no-worry” zone. Have a truly Merry Christmas, everyone!

Invisalign Wishes and Caviar Dreams

Love, they say, is lovelier the second time around.  I’m not quite so sure about love, but what I do know is that getting braces is sweeter the second time around.  I have had the (un)fortunate fate of needing to wear braces twice in this lifetime, and although I had to go through its ups and downs- and lefts and rights- once more, it was all worth it.

My metal-mouthed saga began some 20 years ago, when my insecurity got the better of me.  I was in high school then, feeling helplessly self-conscious of my crooked front teeth.  Of all the teeth which could possibly be misaligned, it just had to be my front teeth.  All my photos showed me with a tight-lipped smile.  I looked like a freak with a bad collagen lip injection.

I finally got my mom to get me braces, despite the cost.  Anyone who’s ever had to wear braces would know what I’m talking about when I say that the initial pain was almost too much to bear.  I couldn’t eat, let alone touch my teeth with my tongue without feeling a shooting pain.  I had to eat mashed bananas and have everything go straight from mouth down to throat.

After a year of religious visits to the orthodontist, my teeth showed remarkable improvement, as I was finally able to show off my pearly whites in a confident prom-picture-worthy smile.  I threw caution to the wind and barely wore the retainer.  Years later, my teeth went back to their crooked glory.

There was no use crying over spilt milk, so I resolved to undertake another tooth-straightening venture.  This time, I was going to do it right and not put all the money and effort to waste.  So, once more, I found myself with steely brackets and bands.

With the advent of more inconspicuous teeth-straightening technology, we adults can straighten our teeth without others even noticing.  If I knew then what I know now, I would’ve pooled my resources and immediately booked an appointment with a dentist from Invisalign NYC.  I would’ve been a more self-assured adult who didn’t have to worry about food lodged in between brackets while in the middle of a corporate meeting.

Even if I didn’t get to experience 21st century teeth-straightening technology first-hand, I’m still happy that I’m finally wearing the smile that I’ve always dreamed of.  The braces are off, and the dazzling smile is on!


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Top 5 Halloween Costumes for Girls

Plump orange pumpkins, a storm of candies, and trick or treat. These are the things which come to mind when one mentions the word Halloween. Much better images than that of Freddy Kruger or Chucky from the scary movie Child’s Play, if I may add.

Kids do look forward to Halloween parties, and no party will be complete without costumes. This is the perfect time for little girls to live out their princess or fairy fantasies- much to the delight of their doting parents.

If you’re looking around for costumes to get your girl for Halloween, here are the top Halloween costumes for girls based on amazon.com sales:

  1. Strawberry Shortcake Deluxe Costume
  2. Harry Potter Gryffindor Robe
  3. Pink Ranger Samurai Classic Costume
  4. Monster High Frankie Stein Costume
  5. Disney’s Long Blonde Princess   Tangled Rapunzel Wig – Child


While you’re at it, why not get yourself a Halloween costume too? After all, you’re never too old to be Tinkerbell even for one night.

Single Moms and Car Repairs

Being without a man in your life does have its pitfalls.  You hit bumps in the road, literally, and you get your car battery inevitably jiggled out of its consoles.  That’s what happened to me just recently, and I have to admit, I was as clueless as a nun in a strip club.  If I had a husband or boyfriend on call, the problem would’ve been diagnosed and fixed in a jiffy, but such is not the case with me.

Going back to the jiggled battery incident, it turns out that was the reason my car just wouldn’t start on that fateful morning on my way to work.  I had to resort to taking public transport that day, and later that evening, contacted my male cousin to have a look at the problem.  It didn’t take long for him to see what was wrong.  That saved me a trip to the car mechanic.

About a week after, I noticed that my car AC system was no longer blowing cold air.  I thought, I was the only one HOT, but so was my car.  Anyway, I drove around, looking for a somewhat reliable car shop which specialized in car air-conditioning.  Lo and behold, I found one nearby, and just boldly drove up there.  One of the guys said to first test something, and that might mean having to change a part.  I didn’t have the faintest idea of what he was saying, but I just played along, pretending I understood.   So, I comfortably seated myself in a corner of their shop as two men worked away on my car.  It took a good 3 hours before they told me everything was ok.  We tested the AC, and it felt good to have cold air blowing in my face again.

I have always been baffled by the concept of car repairs.  Yes, I do know how to turn on the ignition and drive, but that’s about all I know about automobiles.  When I look under the hood, it’s almost as if I’m looking at an entirely different quadrant of the galaxy.

My advice to women out there:  Ask around for referrals for car repair shops.  If you have the time, try to educate yourself on the topic.  There are a number of websites on car systems and repair which can make you more confident when it comes to the various facets of car care.


Top Ten Emerging Influential Blogs for 2011: My Picks

Blogs are a dime a dozen, but only a handful deserve to be labeled the distinction “influential”.  These are the blogs which make us keep coming back because of their ability to influence the way we think, feel, and even the way we do number 2 in the toilet.

This is the first time I’m joining Janette Toral’s writing project, and I couldn’t be more excited!  Drumroll, please… now, here are my picks for the Top Ten Emerging Influential Blogs for 2011:

The Tottering Mama– Parenting blogs are sprouting like mushrooms in cyberspace, but this blog begs to differ.  It gives new life to parenting as the author dishes out advice based on her experience in raising two toddlers.  This blog proves to be a helpful resource to parents who choose to homeschool their kids.

My Painted Lips– I cannot even begin to fathom how the author of this blog manages to juggle so many things in the air: raising her four kids and maintaining numerous blogs.  More than keeping her house spic and span, she manages to pull it off with a sexy body to boot!  Her blog spans more than just lipsticks.  She inspires other work-at-home-moms to keep looking fab even at home.

LEVYousa– One look at her blog header, and I already feel like levitating.  This blog is all about the author’s views on life and basically everything that goes on around her.  She seeks to inspire through her chronicles, and she manages to do just that.  After I read her posts, I’m always left with a smile on my face (which I can’t easily wipe off), and my soul feels a great deal lighter.

Notepad Corner– What was initially intended to simply be a personal blog has now turned into a rich resource of information which can be applied to everyday life.  From useful insights on the profound to practical housekeeping advice, I found them all in the Notepad Corner.

Mom Writes– Anyone can write, but only a few can successfully tug at the readers’ heartstrings.  The author’s posts leave me inspired and always thankful to God for all my blessings.  She helps me see life through rose-colored glasses.

Certified Foodies– I love to eat out, but I’m often at a loss as to where to go for good food.  This blog is heaven sent, as the authors suggest various restaurants which are worth visiting.  They’ve also got everything covered… from cheese to alcohol.  Reading their blog never fails to leave me hungry and laughing at the same time.

The Bloggers Journal– Needless to say, this blog has helped me in so many ways.  Being a newbie, I definitely need all the help I can get when it comes to blogging.  The author gives out advice on everything about blogging, from the simple to complex.

My Green Living Ideas– I haven’t really been an advocate of protecting the environment, but this blog has somewhat changed the way I view Mother Earth.  The author offers tangible tips on caring for the environment, in a way that isn’t preachy.

Mommy Survival– The author couldn’t be closer to the truth when she says that motherhood is a tough job.  Reading her blog has helped me handle things more easily, what with me raising a kid alone.  She has virtually carried me through motherhood’s most trying moments with her writing.

There you have it…my top ten.  This writing project will never have been possible without the help of the following sponsors:

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Photography Tip: How to Shoot Jump Shots

Any bona fide camera-whore would tell you that no photography buff would pass up an opportunity to take a perfect jump shot. No, I’m not talking about shooting hoops with a ball here. I’m referring to pictures of people, kids most especially, jumping in the air. You don’t necessarily have to rob a bank just to get a high-end DSLR. Even with a simple point-and-shoot camera, you should be able to capture that moment when your subjects are in midair. [Read more…]

Top 5 ways to be happier

Are you the type who sees the glass as half empty or half full?  With all the trials we go through in life, day in day out, it almost comes as no surprise to find most of us turning into pathetic pessimists.  Inspite of all the hardships life constantly throws at us, we should somehow try to keep our heads above water, and keep from being swallowed by utter despair.  What can we do to have a happier disposition in life? [Read more…]

The three P’s of a lunar eclipse

What is it with me and astronomic phenomena? Ever since I can remember, I keep missing these close encounters of the lunar kind.  I didn’t get to catch the lunar eclipse the other night.  Now, I have to be content with viewing other people’s pictures of this magnificent wonder.  Nonetheless, I am still left with my mouth gaping in awe at this beautiful sight.  The next time you are fortunate enough to witness a lunar eclipse, here are some P’s to remember, to get the most enjoyment out of your lunar experience:

Picnic–  Being in the company of friends, family, or your special someone under the stars spells “fun” in anyone’s dictionary.  A lunar eclipse, or meteor shower, as the case may be, would provide the perfect backdrop for a night together with the people dearest to you.  Bring out the picnic blanket, throw in a few munchies and drinks, and you’re all set for a fun night outdoors.

Propose–  What could be more romantic than proposing marriage to the love of your life under a beautiful lunar eclipse?  Both of you are sure to remember this day for the rest of your lives. It makes for a good story to tell your grandchildren too.

Pepper–  No, I’m not talking about a condiment here, nor am I being overly narcissistic, because that’s way out of my league.  Ok, in effect, I am talking about myself here, because I want to stress the need for quiet “me” time.  Whatever you do for a living, whether you slave off for hours in the office, or you are a busy homemaker 24/7, you deserve and badly need time to just be still and relax.  A lunar eclipse is a good opportunity for you to just sit under the blanket of stars, and ponder on the greatness of God.  Even for a few minutes, you can simply sit back, enjoy the view, and clear your mind of all your worries.


What you need to know about Pepper

If I have been blessed with an angelic voice, I would definitely be singing Disney Aladdin’s “A Whole New World” to my heart’s content right now, as I feel that I have been transported to a new world of friendship and sisterhood.  Blogging has opened doors of opportunity for me- doors to not only money-making schemes, but to newfound friendships as well.  One of those friends is Levy who has tagged me, so I am now required to divulge 10 facts about me.

  1. I am never comfortable talking about myself, so what I’m doing right now is making me extremely uneasy (and slightly nauseous!).  That’s why I know I’ll never be a movie star, or a politician, for that matter.
  2. I don’t watch TV…I channel-surf.  Blame that on my short attention span.  Without the remote, I am helpless.
  3. I worry too much.  I tend to overthink things, as if I didn’t have anything else to do.
  4. It’s no rocket science to figure out that I would do anything and everything for my daughter.  She’s all I’ve got.  I would take a bullet for her, no questions asked.
  5. I love to read, but I haven’t immersed myself in a good book in a while.  All I’ve been reading as of late are blogs.  I find them more interesting and worth my time.
  6. My latest addiction is this certain yema from Bicol.  It has pili nuts, and just the right blend of caramel-y creaminess and sweetness.  I can eat 10 in one sitting.
  7. I hate it when I run out of topics to blog about.  This immensely affects my PR (or, lack of it!).
  8. I am missing somebody terribly right now ;).  Enough said.
  9. I love Yang Chow fried rice, tofu, and lasagna.  Not necessarily in that order.
  10. I wish I had the power to stop time.  If I did, I’d freeze every moment spent with the people dearest to me.

Whew! Now that I’m done, it’s your turn to say 10 things about yourself:

May * Stef * Arlene * Air * Karen * Bambie * Ces * Chris * Dez * Olga

Make a post about it, and then tag 10 people to do the same.  That’s how you play this game.  By the way, please don’t forget to leave a comment here with the url of your post, so I could get to know more about you ;)



Tips on Choosing a Good School Bag

With school opening just around the corner, our kids are getting helplessly excited once more. You could feel excitement in the air as they make a roll call of old friends they look forward to seeing again on the first day of school.

As parents, the excitement does inevitable come with a bit of apprehension when it comes to expenses for school supplies. One back-to-school essential is, of course, the school bag. It’s something which we should choose carefully, because we do want something durable, comfortable for our kid to carry, and of course, reasonably-priced. Here are some tips to consider when buying a school bag for our kids:

Backpacks may be a good option, as the bag must always be carried on both shoulders. This helps protect the kid’s neck, back and spine from undue strain.

The school bag should be positioned with its bottom just at hip level and the top of the bag should be a little above the shoulders.

Weight distribution of the contents of the bag should also be considered. Heavy items should be positioned closest to the back and secured with the elastic straps.

One last note, parents should take note of the maximum load of their children’s school bags. It’s recommended that the weight of the full school bag should not be more than 15% of the child’s body weight.