Going Through The Psychological Cycle Of A Relationship

Until you find the right one, relationships do tend to follow a cycle that helps you to understand errors to avoid in future. After all, it is human to get things wrong. Consequently, it’s likely that you will have to endure several relationship cycles before you can finally get things right and find Mr. or Mrs. Perfect. But don’t worry: Each time you go through the cycle you learn something new about yourself.


Knowing It’s Love

At first, what truly starts a relationship is not the first date. It’s the moment when you realize that you are in love with them. Sometimes, it happens so subtlely that you may not notice at first, but soon you will find yourself thinking about your crush or your date a lot. There are signs that are dead-giveaway about your feelings – for this is what it is about here: Feelings and being able to read them clearly. For instance, if you feel lonely when you are not with them, or if you feel nervous around them, it’s an indication that your feelings have developed into love.

Realizing You Don’t Love Them Anymore


Many relationships don’t last forever. It’s part of the cycle until you find the right person for you. Consequently, when you begin to realize that you don’t love your boyfriend or girlfriend anymore, the best thing to do is to be honest about it. Beware though: being honest about your feelings doesn’t give you the right to hurt theirs. You need to picture yourself in their shoes when you approach the breaking up point. Your partner deserves compassion and respect. In other words, don’t do anything that would cause unnecessary pain. Choose your timing wisely – breaking up before their big job interview is a no go – and do it privately and face-to-face.


Broken heart

Missing Your Ex

Sometimes, whether you broke up with them or they did with you, you might find yourself missing your ex. You may even be googling desperately ways to get your ex back easily. If this is the case, you need to be honest about it: It’s a tough job because the simple fact that you still have feelings for them doesn’t mean that they do for you. So it’s important to know how to play your best cards to make them fall in love with you again.

Getting Over Them

You can’t always get your ex back. Consequently, you need to get over them as soon as possible. Habits trigger the feeling of missing someone. For instance, walking past a restaurant you used to visit together is a strong trigger. Therefore if you can identify the triggers that create the craving for your ex, then you can learn to isolate and remove them. This is done by creating new habits that you associate with these triggers. For example, why not organize a girls’ night out at the same restaurant? It will provide a new meaning to the place.

Meeting Someone New


Meet someone new


Finally, when you are ready to meet someone new, it’s time to be creative to meet new people. Online dating sites are useful, but real life can be just as good too. You could accompany your friends to parties and events, which is great to expand your network of friends. Being brave and talking to strangers can be rewarding as well! Don’t miss a chance to meet new people.



About Pepper

I am a single working mom, trying to raise my kid the best way I know how. Join me as I navigate my way through the jungle that is Single Mom-hood, armed with rose-colored glasses and strength of spirit. As pepper adds spice to food, so does my daughter add spice to my life. She makes life no less than…PEPPERRIFIC!

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