How to survive a long-distance relationship

If you feel that insanity is slowly starting to creep up on you because you haven’t seen your boyfriend or husband in ages, don’t shave your head just yet. Long-distance relationships are not at all uncommon these days, what with unforeseen and inevitable circumstances forcing couples to be apart. Mile-long stretches of sand or sea may be physically between you and your loved one but that’s all it is…physical distance. What they say still holds true: love conquers all. Here are some things you can do to battle the LDR (long-distance relationship) blues:

Have faith– and I’m not just singing a George Michael song here. Being away from your partner is no easy situation to handle, but just try to have faith…both in him and in what the future holds.
Move about– yes, the idle mind is the devil’s workshop. Keep yourself busy in whatever you’re interested in, so you won’t think about him too much.
Communicate– sometimes, the simplest things are the ones most often overlooked. Communicate constantly. Use whatever means are at your disposal: YM, Skype, your swanky Iphone.
Speak through gifts– no, we’re not being materialistic here. Send your sweetheart something through courier. Though he may not be a fan of surprises, this will no doubt paint a pleased smile on his freshly-shaved face. Ask your local courier about special delivery packages like food for birthdays, etc.
Connect– it’s not enough that you burn the phone lines everyday. What matters more is the quality of your conversations. Find an area of common interest, and use that to connect with each other. If you both are basketball fans, for instance, talk to each other on the phone as the game is going on. That way, you get the illusion that he’s merely a stone’s throw away from you.

Surviving long-distance relationships is easier than you think. All it takes is the same degree of commitment and love you can give each other, just as if he were right beside you.

About Pepper

I am a single working mom, trying to raise my kid the best way I know how. Join me as I navigate my way through the jungle that is Single Mom-hood, armed with rose-colored glasses and strength of spirit. As pepper adds spice to food, so does my daughter add spice to my life. She makes life no less than…PEPPERRIFIC!

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  1. this makes me cry. why? because I know my ex did all the things you have listed here and I did not:( that is why it didnt work out between us.

  2. I have been in a LDR with my husband before we decided to tie the knot and I can say that can work as long as both parties are willing to stay committed.

    This year we will be nine years together :)

  3. hi mommy pepper! thanks for visiting my site. i got excited when i saw your latest blog title because my hubby and i survived almost 3 years of being far apart. and thank God, we worked it out and now, we live happily together and nothing makes me more happy!

  4. im in a long distance relationship for 3 years now and our relationship keep burning more with love

    • THanks, Air! Now, I’m suddenly inspired by you :)
      it’s ironic how i am able to write a post like this, when I’m the one who’s almost ready to give up.

  5. Cielo of Brown Pinay says

    Having been a Pamilyang OFW for 6 years…we had already mastered the art of LDR -apart from the Love, Thanks to technology too – it plays a major part

    See how we did it here: Pamilyang OFW – Salamat sa Communication at Technology

    • I hope I could be as strong as you. I admit, I’m having somewhat of a hard time coping with the time apart…

  6. Cielo of Brown Pinay says

    Having been a Pamilyang OFW for 6 years…we had already mastered the art of LDR -apart from the Love, Thanks to technology too – it plays a major part

    See how we did it here: Pamilyang OFW – Salamat sa Communication at Technology

  7. Hi Pepper! Thanks for visiting my blog (through GT).

    I’m currently in an LDR myself, have been going for almost 2 years now and as situations go right now, we’re probably looking at another 4 years of LDR. Between the physical distance and the annoying time difference, it sure has not been easy. And yeah, technology sure helps a lot, but sometimes it fails us :P. (

    Anyway, I should try number 4 of your list: sending surprise gifts. good idea!


  8. This works for others but not for me :( kahit 1-year apart lang ako with hubby (2001) and we chat often hehe yoko na!

  9. Insan,

    You know I did LDR for almost 4 years and communication is the foundation of a solid relationship. Kaya Skype is my best friend. As long as there is communication and trust, you can survive the physical distance apart.

  10. Thanks you very much for spreading about long-distance relationship . It is so hard to drive in proper way. first time i saw such article which is very useful for everyone. I appreciate for that also. I read & i inspired to be such article write . thanks a lot to share.

  11. iPad Repair says

    For me long distance relationship needs more patients especially trust. trust is one of the many elements in a successful relationship

  12. As always the most important thing in a relationship is trust. It’s more important than ever in a long distance relationship. A lack of intimacy can leave individuals feeling detatched from the relationship. You have to find news ways to share your lives. Luckily with the help of technology, distances are much smaller now. There is a new Social Network dedicated to couples. I think its called cupple. That kind of thing could help bridge the gap.

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