Motherhood: how do I measure up?

On a scale of 1-10 (10 being the highest), how do I rate myself as a mom? I am almost tempted to give myself an actual rating, but I do not want to risk raising eyebrows. A low number would signify lack of confidence, while a high number would seem as if I believe too much in my abilities as a mother. So, to play it safe, I guess it would be best just not to rate myself :)

If I were to personally assess my capabilities as a mother, I would say that it truly is a never-ending learning process. It’s something you couldn’t get a PhD for, as you may turn old and gray and still feel like it was only yesterday when you first learned how to change a baby’s diapers.

In this realm called motherhood, I am both a student and a teacher. We teach best what we most need to know, right? If I were to rate myself, there would be days when I’d give myself a staggering 10, and on other days, I’d give myself a measly 2. In this world where the constant thing is change, my “motherhood morale” goes through fluctuations as well.

I guess, other moms also find it hard to rate themselves. It is maybe something which is better left for others to decide. Opinions vary from various perspectives, anyway.

This is my entry for When SAHMone speaks:
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About Pepper

I am a single working mom, trying to raise my kid the best way I know how. Join me as I navigate my way through the jungle that is Single Mom-hood, armed with rose-colored glasses and strength of spirit. As pepper adds spice to food, so does my daughter add spice to my life. She makes life no less than…PEPPERRIFIC!

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  1. Mitchteryosa says

    I so agree with what you have just said.

    Thanks for joining! Sorry about the frog LOL!

  2. I think when it comes to our kids, our best was never enough. We try to give them the best of our capabilities but we still strive for more. I guess that’s how being a mom really work.

    My entry for the When SAHM-one Speaks: How to be a perfect mother

  3. I’d say I’m a 6 and still have a lot of opportunity for growth. However, I am proud that I am doing my best and though my angel is not always an angel, he is not mean either.

  4. Hi Pepper, thank you for dropping at my post. Thanks for the wonderful and encouraging words.

    Yes, being a mom is not easy and as time goes we learn and learn and to make that learning a success we can also teach it.

    Happy Tuesday!

  5. gie santos says

    for me i don’t really think it’s fair to rate ourselves and all other mothers out there. like you said it is a continuing learning process. so we are bound to make mistakes every now and then and that’s ok as long as we have learned the lesson and as long as we do our best to make our children happy, healthy, wise and overall a good person inside and out. parenting or mothering tactics depends on the child itself. there are situations when yoou need a different approach to teach your young ones. it may not be common to some and thay may find it weird or what but that’s how your child responds to it. so i guess if i were to rate all moms out there, id say they are all perfect 10. we would not have made it this far without them. so kudos to all mommies and daddies too ;)

  6. venussmileygal says

    Im a single mother of 5 and one things sure on my side… I still have a lot to learn. :)

  7. I am still pretty new in this motherhood thing. I am still learning the ropes of it but I do agree with what you said here…. I myself learn everyday from Sean:).

  8. It really is difficult to rate ourselves as mothers, isn’t it? I had a hard time figuring out how I measured up also. Here’s what I finally gave myself

  9. Yes. I agree with you mommy pepper. with regards to your line that there are days that we can say we can give ourselves a perfect 10 score for being a mother and there are also days that we are not being a good one. :D

  10. we all deserve a perfect score..ang hirap kyang maging mommy.. :D

  11. jared's mum says

    very well said sis, + to think that you where even struggling awhile back in making your post. it is really hard to rate as some may deem us patting ourselves too much on the back or putting ourselves down. but honestly, for all the efforts that we exert + all the love that we shower our children, i think we all deserve a perfect 10 ;)

  12. Playing safe si mommy ehhe ill give you a rate of 10 mommy kasi ikaw lahat gumagawa, giving birth palang eh nasa 10 na yun lalo na sa mga gawain sa bahat at pag aalaga diba.

  13. Cielo of Brown Pinay says

    It is really hard to rate oneself as a Mom, coz it is a learning process indeed. But for the simple reason that we are all trying our best to give our best for our kids…we all deserve a perfect 10.

    Visiting from SAHM Meme (Mine is up too at How Do I Fare as A MOM)

  14. Mahirap nga :D Our kids are the ones who can rate us as a mom ;) Have a lovely weekend!

  15. I think we can only say we did a good job as a mother when our kids get older and we see them successful in life. Of course, successful not only means having a lot of money, but being happy with their lives :) Or we see them being good parents themselves.

  16. We cannot totally rate ourselves as mothers, it is our children who will be able to rate us as honest as possible. Thanks for visiting my site and commenting on ‘How Green Are You’…following you now

  17. Happy Mothers Day to all loving mothers in the world! Tomorrow is Mothering Sunday here in the US and I know that eventhough it is celebrated on a different date depending on where you are, I still want to greet all mothers on this special day!

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