Single-Parent Kids Anonymous?

On one of those crazy afternoons when it would rain cats and dogs one minute and be all sunny the next, I found myself in the company of a long-time friend.  We were talking about Ryan Seacrest’s sexual orientation when we suddenly jumped to the topic of kids of single parents.

What was initially a cheery conversation turned sour as she began to say how being a child of a single parent was akin to being a child with special needs.  I wanted so bad to punch her in the nose.  She said that such kids needed to be in a support group.  She made it seem as if they were suffering from some type of addiction.

We single parents fight tooth and nail just to give our kids the best.  We try our hardest to provide for all their needs- physical, mental, emotional, etc.  Oh, the nerve of some people to say that our kids are children of a lesser god.

Of course the ideal setup for any child would be to grow up with both a mother and father, but in this day and age, that isn’t always possible.  Circumstances happen, and the child is sometimes inevitably left with just one of her parents.  It was almost as if my friend wanted me to stalk the man behind the nearest Starbucks outlet and take him as my new husband.

Raising a kid alone is difficult, but it is feasible.  For the past number of years, children growing up in single parent homes are becoming a dime a dozen, and they emerge from their nests successful and with a lot to show the world.

Maybe a support group for us single parents would be more in order.  What do you think?

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  1. That is very judgemental of her and needless to say tactless. I know many youngsters with both parents taking care of ’em and yet more troubled than anyone who may be raised in an orphanage. I wish you did punch her on the nose. I kid.

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  2. kids are try hard to raise for anyone!! and all care givers need as much support as they can get…not negative insults!

  3. Kimberly at Rubber Chicken Madness says

    As a long time single parent (who has raised two boys completely solo due to an absent father), I can say that they are probably better off than if I had stayed in an extremely dysfunctional situation. However, there are times when they need an understanding ear (Doughnuts with Dads Breakfast at school…feeling left out, but realizing they can invite Grandpa, etc.) so a support group might be helpful?

    So their lives are different, but not lesser.

    • I guess yes, their lives are quite different from the usual, but we can still help them cope. Getting Grandpa, or any other male relative, involved is a good idea.

  4. There was a story in the news here a while ago about someone from America said that ALL kids raised by single parents turn out to be criminals.

    Sometimes you just have to smile and wave.

    Comments like this stem from ignorance and an unwillingness to accept that the idea of family changed a long time ago!

  5. Just one look at your blog, and I have already been inspired. Being a single mom is difficult, but with posts like these, it makes it easier. And more so when you have a community of single parents. :D

  6. How annoying! I’ve read that kids raised by single parents are more prone to suicide or, as Laura pointed out, end up criminals etc. Whatever. God’s love and grace will always be bigger than our mistakes. “Facts and figures” may say certain things about single parents and their kids, but the Truth is that God loves our children and His Grace is more than enough no matter what the circumstances.

    And yea, a support group for single parents is a wonderful idea! :)

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