Coping With the Absent Father Syndrome

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I guess it’s safe to say that most, if not all of us grew up with the idea that the father is the head of the family.  No family is complete without the head, just as no living body is anatomically complete without a head above it.  But what if the family has no head? What if, for one reason or another, a father figure is lacking in the family picture?  Can a mother and her kids alone still thrive as a normal family?

The answer, of course, is a resounding “yes!”  Families nowadays no longer strictly comprise of father, mother, brother, sister and the family dog.  The white picket fence has been replaced with a rundown condo parking slot.  Single parent families are now a dime a dozen, and they prove to produce well-raised kids despite the circumstances.  So, how can you cope with an absent father situation?

Call.  This is what your kid’s dad should do everyday.  Even if that means he has to briefly chat with your kid as he walks to his car from the office.  You can never underestimate the power of communication.  Although his father’s away, your kid won’t feel his absence if he makes it a habit to call everyday, just to ask how your kid’s day went.

Listen. More than talking, your kid’s dad should learn the art of listening to his kids.  He should show a genuine interest in your kid’s ramblings.

Build.  The relationship, that is.  Even if it’s just over Skype, your kid’s dad must try to connect with his kids.  He should start learning the lyrics to Katy Perry’s Firework (or is it Fireworks?) , so they can sing together via webcam.

If your kid’s father is out of the country because of work, or if your kid’s father is now your ex-husband, you can still work around that.  A little effort goes a long way.