Soulmates R Us

Wouldn’t it be absolutely convenient if you could simply hop on our car and drive to the nearest Soulmates R Us outlet to find yourself the man of your dreams?   All you need to do is scour the aisles for a man whose specifications match yours and you’re good to go.  But wait, there’s more… Soulmates R Us is gender-sensitive, so if you’re the type who prefers a same-sex match, there is a special section for you.  In a perfect world, nobody is left behind.

If only it were that easy.  But we all know that life is far from easy.  You could however, take consolation in the fact that you are not alone in thinking that the universe is conspiring against your finding the man- or woman- of your dreams.  Michael Jackson was lucky he found the perfect glove to match his hand, while the not-so-fortunate among us are still on the perennial quest to find that glove-match.  We go through a series of hits and misses when diving into the dating pool, only to end up with hearts weary from all the endless heartache and disappointment.

What is a soulmate anyway?  The idea of a soulmate has its origins in the belief in reincarnation and all that karmic, cosmic energy.  I am no guru when it comes to that, so you can either believe me or think that I’m just pulling your leg.  All I know is, there is this belief that the “creator” takes a soul, and splits it in half as they each take on a human form.  They go through life, learning lessons along the way, and sometimes their paths cross.  When they do, they feel a strange connection and that they “complete each other”.

Nowadays, we often use the word “soulmate” so casually as if it were as common as a cinema “exit” sign.  We hardly even know what it really means.  We call anybody whom we fall head over heels in love with our soulmate.  We call someone we’ve locked eyes with at a coffee shop our soulmate.

However which way we want to call it, it all boils down to one thing: we are on the prowl- or, to put it more decently, on the search- for someone to make us feel whole.  We long for that Jerry-Maguire-you-complete-me person to fill our days and nights with endless wonder.  At the end of the day, we just want someone to give us a backrub and tell us that we’re gorgeous as hell.

Top 3 Ways to Find Love

I still haven’t found what I’m looking for. Yes, I’m singing to an old U2 tune. I couldn’t help but have that song play over and over in my head as my daughter and I were fervently looking for Easter eggs at an Easter egg hunt we went to yesterday. This reminds me of another thing which men and women alike keep looking for (aside from money)…LOVE!
We search high and low, near or far, but oftentimes, our efforts turn out to be another exercise in futility. The last thing on our minds is to end up growing old alone. What use is a talent in playing the guitar if you have nobody to play for, right? Exactly what must we do to find love?
• Ask to be introduced. This is where your network of friends comes in handy. Sure, Facebook is convenient, but it’s more important to get out there for some face-to-face human contact. Sometimes, if you don’t take some action, it just will never happen. Your friends know you well enough to find you a suitable match, but don’t take it out on them if things don’t work out.
• Steer clear of friends who might bring you down. We attract from the universe what we put into it, so if we go out there with a negative attitude about finding love, we just might succeed at never finding it. If you keep spending your weekends with your group of single, man-hater girlfriends, chances are, you’ll end up like them.
• Stop looking. Hasn’t it happened many times, that you’ve been looking all over for your glasses, only to find it hanging around your neck? Sometimes, the one thing we keep searching long and hard for has just been sitting right under our nose the whole time.
Finding love…well, at least real and lasting type, is never easy. There will be hits and misses along the way, but that’s all part of the ride. We fall, we get bruised, we get back up. Just as it says in the famous poem Desiderata: “whether or not it is clear to us, the universe is unfolding as it should”…