Timing is Everything

It’s a skill I have yet to fully master.  Even at my age, I still seem to not know when the timing is right to start an argument with Mr. Significant Other.  Men do hate confrontation, so going down that road definitely means treading on precarious terrain.  I don’t know exactly why, but I guess it’s because they feel it’s a blow to their ego whenever we bring up an issue which concerns them and the relationship.  There are simply certain occasions when we should restrain ourselves from going into overdrive, and save the emotional explosions for a more opportune time.  So, here are the times when we women should NOT confront or argue with our partners:

He’s hungry.  Men will tend to answer the needs of their bodies first and foremost.   But if you must bring up an issue without delay, try doing so in the middle of dinner, after he’s had that yummy gravy you prepared slide down his throat.

He’s at work.  This is where that yellow road sign Men at Work comes up.   A man at work cannot be disturbed.  Men do have one-track minds, so calling them up during office hours just won’t cut it.  Their work is important to them, so if you keep bugging them while they’re busy, they will fall short on the productivity scale, and that will haunt them forever.

He’s watching the game.  It is an almost primeval need for them to catch every second of that basketball game.  He might even hold the urge to go to the bathroom just so he won’t miss any part of the action.  At least, wait until halftime, and then talk to him.

He just woke up.  Everybody I guess wants to start their day positive.   Some men are really particular about that.  They sometimes feel that whatever happens in the morning is a precursor to what happens throughout the day.

He’s sleepy.  Again, he must cater to his biological needs first.

When it comes to engaging your man in serious conversation, find a suitable time to do that.  Confronting your man about a serious issue at the wrong time will only fan the flames.  You’ve got your work cut out for you if he happens to be moody!

Timing applies to you as well.  Be sure you’ve thoroughly thought about what you’re about to tell your man.  Be nice and stick to the issue.