Grabbing the BULL-y by the Horns

Probably one of the hardest skills a mom should master is hiding her emotions.  It’s putting on a façade of strength when inside, her spirit is crushed to bits.  I was faced with that challenge last week, when my daughter came home from school, crying.  She said that one of her classmates- I’ll call her K- broke her rosary.

It broke my heart to see my daughter sobbing.  Inside, my blood was curdling.  I pulled out all curse words I knew from my vocabulary, and mentally hurled them at K, stabbing straight through her heart.

It’s not so much about the broken rosary as it is about what my daughter was feeling.  She treasured that object, and seeing the beads fly all over the classroom simply shattered her.

My daughter went on to cite instances when K would forcefully demand her to lend her a pencil, etc.  There was also a time when K scratched my daughter’s forearm, for what reason I don’t know.  What set me off what hearing my daughter tell me that she’s afraid of K.  I now have a new name for K … Bully!

In the school I work at, I’ve seen bullying in all its forms, and educated myself on how to react and what to do if and when that happened to my daughter.  Now that it’s finally happened, all I feel is anger.  All sanity is lost.

I’ve written my daughter’s teacher about it, and we’ll take it from there.  I know this incident may pale in comparison to other cases of bullying, but when it happens to you, it’s simply the worst.

Do you have a bullying tale you’d like to share?

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Pop quiz: Who said the following… “I like to fight her because I don’t want to fall in love with her!  She’s so pretty.”

  1. The neighbor with the unshaved chin and maniacal laugh.
  2. Brad Pitt
  3. A 5-year old boy at school.

If you answered C, you’re right.  I felt my jaw drop and couldn’t believe it myself when I heard that boy say that after slapping a cute little girl smack in the face, making her cry and fall to the floor.  Turns out, he does this on a regular basis.  On one occasion, one of the teachers caught him relentlessly punching that same little girl in the face.

This leaves me utterly stunned, dumbfounded.  I couldn’t make sense of what happened.  I don’t have a degree in Psychology, so I’m clueless about the reason behind that boy’s behavior.  I don’t really feel like Googling this right now…

I am a mother to a girl, and I can’t imagine someone doing that to her.  Just thinking about it sends my blood pressure soaring.

On the other hand, I also pity the boy.  His behavior may be a result of some past traumatic experience.  Could he have special needs which haven’t been addressed?  I reckon this boy has the makings of a future wife-batterer.  Do they really start off this young?  Maybe.  Parents should probably catch this behavior early, and start an intervention plan of action or something.

This is a real eye-opener.  As parents, we should be more vigilant about our children’s behavior.    It’s time to reassess how we are at home and the possible stimuli they get from their social and physical environment.