The Case of the Missing Sense of Humor

When I was 10, I was a huge Nancy Drew fan.  If anything, those books were probably the only ones I really read.  I remember being curled up by the window, reading for long stretches, unmindful of the hunger pangs creeping in.  These mystery stories always kept me on my toes, ready to dash out my bedroom door if I can no longer stand the suspense.

Now, I feel there’s a mystery I must solve.  The clues to solving it continue to elude me, though.  It’s the case of the missing sense of humor- mine, to be exact!  For some reason, I feel that I’m not as witty as I used to be.  The torch of humor I used to carry now ceases to burn as brightly.  Over time, I have grown to take things a little too seriously, consequently failing to find the funnies in the smallest of things.

Is it motherhood?  I’d like to think not.  Although my priorities have shifted tremendously because of the huge responsibility of raising a kid, I don’t think this is the primary reason I’ve lost my sense of humor.

Probably, it’s because of the people I hang out with these days.  Years ago, I used to work in a company where my co-workers were my closest friends.  Day in, day out, we’d have so much fun, even if it meant simply goofing around at our office desks.  We seemed to all be on the same wavelength, that’s why we’d all get each other’s jokes.

I guess I just have to dig deep inside me.  I should still be able to unearth that foot-stomping, snorting kind of humor.  I miss it…

About Pepper

I am a single working mom, trying to raise my kid the best way I know how. Join me as I navigate my way through the jungle that is Single Mom-hood, armed with rose-colored glasses and strength of spirit. As pepper adds spice to food, so does my daughter add spice to my life. She makes life no less than…PEPPERRIFIC!

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  1. it’s definitely still there! you just gotta face yourself in the mirror, shake your hands while you shrug your shoulders and bend your head from side to side, side to side, side to side… then do little jumps and hops like Paquiao preparing for his match… then let out a big grin, eyes wide open! :)

    Spanish Pinay

  2. of course it’s still there! maybe you have to find other activities outside the office to let it out :)

  3. I think it happens as we get older…we do need to lighten up don’t we?

  4. I’m sure you still have it too! It is easier to dwell on the not so funny, always. What about finding some kind of reminder? I recently started watching Absolutely Fabulous again on BBC America, and that show and those characters just make me laugh! I’m sure there’s some kind of trigger for you too;)

  5. Here’s my recipe for a sense of humor. Play. Humor requires that we be willing to look at life through Groucho Marx glasses. It requires the willingness to put on clown shoes. It requires braving permanent facial creases by pulling your mouth wide and sticking your tongue out. A sense of humor requires being willing to risk looking stupid. It requires a willingness to be seen at our most vulnerable. It is living life in a glass house–and being willing to throw rocks at the walls from the inside. It means being strong and confident enough to risk scorn and derision. A sense of humor is not for the faint-hearted.

    A sense of humor requires being willing to ask, “If I take THIS, and stick it in HERE, what will happen?” Maybe a baby. Maybe a fire. Maybe a meal. Or maybe laughter. But whatever the result, the necessary component is a sense of play, a willingness to take risks, and above the courage to be goofy.

    And that’s all I have to say about that!

  6. Anne @ GreenEggs&Moms says

    Hmm, I don’t think you have to dig deep in the trenches of your soul, Pepper. I agree with SP that your witty side is still there. It’s exactly what makes your posts interesting reads.

    Cheers to your humor! It’s not lost :)

  7. Perhaps you need to create more time for yourself, make yourself happier and prettier. Feeling good about yourself can help bring back your sense of humor.

  8. I hope it comes back soon! I’ve had those kind of co-workers that are hard to replace!

  9. I was told that we become the average of the five people we are with on a daily basis. Hmmm. It’s interesting how well-synced our brain patterns are. I have been ruminating on my long-lost humor as well, and yes, I too was a Nancy Drew fanatic way back in my childhood days. Hahaha. (short of saying: Are you my long-lost sister?) hahaha. Anyway, I hope that our witty torches get lit again. It’s not so fine to age ungracefully and sullenly.

  10. I thought you were talking about me on the first few paragraphs…coz I really, really love Nancy Drew. Finished the whole set when I was also 10. I borrow weekly from the school library. :-)

    Ah you are right, it’s got something to do with the people you hang out with. I am naturally makulit but only with people I am closest to or comfortable talking with. I like to spend more time with people who are are like-minded, sharing the same sense of humor :-)

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