Easy Ways To Keep The Spark Alive When You’ve Been Together For Years

It’s perfectly natural for the dynamic of your relationship to change over time. Like most couples, when you first met, you were probably completely and utterly smitten with each other. You didn’t fight. Nothing about the other person irritated you. Fast forward a few years, and the chances are that the relationship you have now is very different to the one that you had then.

What it’s important to understand is that it’s perfectly natural for your relationship to change over time. When you’ve been with someone for a long time, the way that you see each other begins to change. The good news is that although the dynamic of your relationship will change over time, there are plenty of ways you can ensure that the spark is kept alive.

For some suggestions for keeping the chemistry good between the two of you, even after you’ve been together for years, keep reading.


Keep the TV off and talk


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A mistake that a lot of couples makes when it comes to their relationship is spending most of their time together in front of the TV. When you sit in front of the TV, you stop talking to each other. So it’s important to keep the TV off sometimes, to ensure that you continue to talk to each other. Perhaps you could make a rule that for an hour each night you’ll sit down together with a glass of wine and talk about your day and what you’ve been up to? Stock up on your favorite wine – to find a wine you love, resources like WithMyWine can be useful – and sit down with a glass each night and have a chat with your partner.


Go out once a week


As well as making time to chat together at home, it’s also a good idea to make an effort to go out with your partner once a week. It’s far too easy to get into a rut with your relationship, so it’s important to mix things up by going out on a date once a week. This could be to your favorite restaurant, to the movies, or to a bar for drinks. It doesn’t matter what you do, just as long as you get out of the house.


Make an effort to be intimate with each other


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The chances are that when you were first together, you couldn’t keep your hands off each other. However, now that you’ve been together for a while, you most probably aren’t as intimate with each other as you once were. Make an effort to show your partner affection by holding their hand, cuddling them, and kissing them. These might only be little things, but you’d be amazed at how much difference they can make to your relationship.


Have a laugh together


It’s easy to get into a habit of moaning at each other more than you have fun together. So it’s important to make having a laugh together a priority. Watch comedy films, go for days out at theme parks, try a new sport together. There are plenty of ways that you can have fun together; it’s just a case of making time to do so.

Believe it or not, even after being together for years, you can still keep the spark alive.



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  1. very nice article pep…good guidelines… :)

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