Top 5 Single Mom Skills

A single mom’s- or any mom’s, for that matter- parenting resume would certainly stretch for miles, what with all the skills she has mastered over time. From nappy-changing to burping to giving advice to your daughter on her first heartbreak, we moms seem to have this knack for knowing when to pull out the guns at any given parenting circumstance. Here are just some of those skills single moms possess:

Holding back tears. No life is devoid of heartache and gut-wrenching, bawl-your-eyes-out sorrow. If you’re a single mom, you know better not to show your kids your emotions. Since you’re the only one they depend on, you have to be that stronghold for them. Even if your water runs dry, you have to devise ways to be the wellspring of their emotional and physical well-being.

Juggling. A single mom tries with all her might to multitask and juggle a million and one responsibilities in the air. As much as her sexy body can handle, she earns a living, vacuums the living room carpet and helps her kid with his homework all in one breath. In the process, I for one have likewise mastered the art of juggling balls- literally! It’s fun, you should try it! Who knows, you might end up in a circus act one of these days.

Role-playing. Oh, begone, you kinky mind! That’s not what I’m talking about here. But if you do possess THAT skill, I’m all for it! Anyways, a single mom takes on various personas as the need arises. With the absence of a father in the house, she has no choice but to act as both mom and dad to her kids. Short of growing chest hair and a deep voice, the single mom has to discipline her kid alone. On certain occasions, she’s a dancer who does a mean running man and Roger Rabbit to the tune of Justin Bieber’s “Baby”. She pushes her talents to the limit, if only to entertain her kids.

Negotiation. A single mom who shares custody of her child with the ex-hubby is one who learns how to amicably reach an agreement. She knows how to trade this for that, in order to come up with an arrangement which suits both parties.

Dodging rotten tomatoes. Any mom, at some point in her life, will have to learn to toughen up and just ignore negative comments hurled her way. Remember, sticks and stones…

Like what they say, parenting doesn’t come with a manual. We mothers just learn as we go along. There are hits and misses along the way, but in the end, mastering these parenting skills only makes us better persons who raise even better children.

About Pepper

I am a single working mom, trying to raise my kid the best way I know how. Join me as I navigate my way through the jungle that is Single Mom-hood, armed with rose-colored glasses and strength of spirit. As pepper adds spice to food, so does my daughter add spice to my life. She makes life no less than…PEPPERRIFIC!

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  1. juggling! so true! you must be a queen juggler na po by now. :D

  2. I agree Peps..there are times that I also get tired..being a single mom I admit is tough but seeing my kids grow with the love that they deserve..all my doubts and tiredness just fades away..physically I can say I am not that weak..though I have a heart problem I have always managed to overcome..I am weaker on my emotions most specially when I am alone and crying alone has been the outlet of my emotions..but then again..we have to strong and set aside those emotional burdens because our kids needs us the most :)

  3. Hi Pep!

    Happy to read your latest post… very well said, i need not say more. By the way, “holding back the tears” made my eyes watery.

    • We do need to sometimes hide our emotions and put on a happy face, don’t we? tough job.. but someone’s got to do it.

  4. I was a single parent for awhile and these are all skills are very true. Although now that I’m married I would say that all of these are still needed, just in a different way sometimes.

  5. You’ve got it again. I’m always amazed at how you can pull it together {only in comparison, because I sooo cannot pull it together} to have such lovely, well-written posts.

    Good to know the running-man is not dead, but alive and well…but not to Bieber…:)

  6. hi i voted you from the 2011 influential blogger!

  7. Moms sure do have a lot of talent…I think you should go on America’s Got Talent with all those skills :) PS-following you on GFC now!

  8. voted you for the top 10 emerging influential blogs 2011 pepper! and this post… sorry, i can’t relate… hehehe… but you know what, you are truly one great woman, and that’s the truth. happy to have known you, even through just our blogs…

  9. Awesome post! I spent many years as a single parent and perfected each of these skills. Now that I’m married, I still use most of them, just not in the same way.

    Thanks for stopping by my blog – I’m a new follower for yours and looking forward to reading more!

  10. You speak the honest truth! Being a single mom is basically like living on a Tilt-a-Whirl isn’t it?

  11. Your one of my Top Ten Emerging Influential Blogs.
    Here’s my link:

  12. I spent several years of being a single mom. But I have not mastered the skill of holding back my tears! I am such a cry baby even when in front of my kids even until now.
    I really enjoy reading your posts :)

    • Hi Les! I have to admit, I do cry a lot too, but I just try my hardest to hide it from my kid. I often just cry while I’m in the office… or in the bathroom.

  13. visiting again sis..
    ur one brave mother pepper..adore you a lot!!!

  14. Reading this with wet eyes, Its really hard to hold back the tears.

  15. very well said! :D I find those traits in my mom too! And I love her so much :))

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